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Listen to Your Inner Child

When you hear the word, Inner child, you are more likely to think of it as a bygone past memory. The kid version of you, was that part that was playful, naughty, carefree and very cheerful. We trust and believe everything that has been told to us, whether good or bad and that’s how we are later shaped as adults. 

Now here comes the tricky part, as kids, we were so guileless that anything our elders, teachers, close people, etc. told us, we were quick to accept. This is where we slowly start pushing away our inner child. For weren’t we told that now we need to act like an adult? Act like a big girl/ boy. child playing kite

And now as “Adults” certain situations trigger us into acting like the childish version of ourselves.

Then we question yourself, why am I acting like a child?

This is where listening to your inner child will actually help.

So how does one listen to what the inner child is actually trying to communicate?

Your inner child  does try ways to communicate to you, but you have never actually paid attention to it, wanna know how?

Have you ever observed that there are certain situations under which your mind or your body just froze, you are flooded with angry or negative thoughts, wish to run away, etc.?

Yet you as an adult, do not realise why this particular mundane situation is provoking such strong reactions from you?

That’s your inner child, trying to communicate with you. dreams

Understanding and listening to your inner child requires you to also pay attention to your past childhood needs, wants and desires.

Here are a few questions to start off with to know how to listen, start point.

  • Were your emotional, psychological, physical, spiritual needs met, when you were growing up? 
  • Were you able to truly express your thoughts, wants and desires in a non judgemental way?
  • Were you given the liberty to fully pursue your hobby, spend time doing things you loved the most?

If you have answered No, to either of the questions, then you have found your start point into this inner child journey.

These are the ways in which you can listen to your Inner Child :

  • Acknowledge your inner child’s presence:

To be able to listen to your inner child, the first prerequisite is that you need to ACKNOWLEDGE his/ her presence in your life.

Understand that your inner child functions like any other kid or child. 

They just need  you to tell them that you are paying attention to their needs, wants, desires, likes, dislikes. That you will listen to what they have to say, wont ignore their naive or novel demands, like the other “Adults” have been doing. They need to know that you will value them, if they make a mistake won’t scold them.

Ask yourself or observe this, the next time you make a mistake unknowingly,

What’s the first thing you end up saying to yourself?

Ah, Shit, why am I so dumb!?

That’s where you are indirectly scolding your inner child for their mistake.  

Most of the time, our self talk is not our talk with our own self, but rather a mixture of all the bad remarks adults have told us and what we later carried forward too.

So the next time, you observe that you have been acting rudely with your inner child, pause, say sorry to the inner child. Learn to acknowledge that he/ she is also scared and just needs some support. That’s why you are here. 

  • Practise talking to your Inner child : 

To be able to talk to your inner child,

First you take a picture of yours, from your childhood album.  You can go and sit back in a relaxing place that is quiet and silent. You can either just lie down or sit back comfortably.

Next, before you close your eyes, look at the picture of yourself. Look at the picture carefully, you are going to meet the same kid.

Now as you close your eyes, imagine reaching out to or meeting your inner child for the first time.  

How do you feel he/ she will react? Will they be happy, sad, shy, laidback? Imagine meeting them at a favourite spot, you had, as a kid. You are free to imagine how their first reaction would be to you.

Next, try asking what would he/she like from this adult version of you?

Do you feel they would need some form of support? Acceptance? Need more of “Me” time, play time? Wanna explore more hobbies? Asking the kid and imagining the conversation itself, will make you feel light and get more in touch with your inner child’s wishes.

  • Write a letter to your inner child:

The next way in which you can listen to your inner child is, by writing them a letter.  A very common  first reaction would be, what do I say, how do I acknowledge him or her, how do I go about? writing a letter

It’s simple, firstly give your inner child a cute pet name or refer to them as something you would like to call them. A friend of mine named her inner child “Nemo” for she truly wished to connect and listen to what her inner lost nemo had to say.

In the letter, you can pour out every emotion, expression that you feel you had not experienced as a kid. And let them know that it was not their fault that they were neglected, ignored, bullied, laughed at.

Next you would like to say that now you are here. You will be the adult who will accept them and honour their wishes and desires. You will not leave them. They are worthy of love and affection, which is exactly what you shall provide.

After all, all the inner child really wants you to listen to is, to accept them, don’t ignore them, feed them and let them be silly!

  • Do the things you loved to do as a kid

My childhood may be over, but that doesn’t mean playtime is.” Ron Olson. I completely agree with this statement. Your inner child may or maynot actively talk to you, but once you are more mindful about your own routine or actions, it gets easier to listen to your inner child. Pay attention to the things that made you happy or lively as a kid. 

Whilst “Adulting” we tend to ignore the things that made us excited, that made us lively, maybe it meant chasing those butterflies or collecting seashells, do whatever makes you smile as brightly as the rainbows!

  • Do the thing that pushes your inner child out of its comfort zone:

Now I know you would think that why would I want to push my inner child out of its comfort zone? It will run away and hide and never communicate, but that’s not always the case.

When you try something even as small as, riding on a rollercoaster ride alone, which scared you as a kid. You are allowing a safe space for your inner child to come par with its fears and show them that it’s not that scary as it seems to be. Our fear associated with trying something new and the actual outcome are usually at opposing heights.

 Thus doing this will your inner child speak to you again and try out new adventurous things in life! After all, the child just wants to explore and feel safe at the same time.

This will make you even more lively and try out even more exciting things in life.


Listening to your inner child might feel like an impossible task in the beginning, but once you slowly accept your own childish hues, you shall see that your inner child will aid you to an even fruitful tomorrow!

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Best Bedtime Routines to Manifest Your Dreams

You know that feeling when you wake up in a bad mood?

The slightest things piss you off. From the alarm clock that won’t shut up. To endless phone notifications that keep hammering your ears. Heck, even the way your room looks could rub you off the wrong way.

Your day is officially starting on a bad note. And those desires you want to attract are pushed even further. 

What if I told you a major reason you feel cranky in the morning is your bedtime routine? Specifically, your mental state right before you hit the stack.

Most people are big on morning routines, and rightly so. 

But bedtime routines have a huge impact on how your desires manifest in your daily life. 

For the next few moments, I’ll break it down for you. 

And highlight various ways a solid night routine is what you need to manifest your desires.

Why Are Bedtime Routines Important For Manifestation?

One thing that doesn’t get enough credit but should, is your subconscious mind.

Very few people realize the huge role it plays in shaping lives and destinies. As I like to call it, it’s your autopilot.

It sits back, and drives most of your key decisions. Why? Because it’s always active even if you don’t realize it.

And during sleep its activity is tripled. That’s why programming your mind before diving into a dream world is an excellent way to send your desired intentions to your mind.

As you sleep, your brain waves get spiked up. They’re energized, and send out multiple signals to the universe.

Engaging in an efficient night time routine offers you the opportunity to tap into these waves. 

Of course, you might wonder “What does a good bedtime routine look like?”

Well, let’s talk about that next…

Awesome Bedtime routines to supercharge your life

Most people would notice huge changes when they apply a few things here.

I say this because adopting just one caused my life to take many positive turns. I got more eager to go about my day. I felt insanely confident about my decisions. And my desires started flowing like water from a tea cup.

In short, I’m excited to share my favorite bedtime routines with you.

Get into a high vibration.

Leading up to your bedtime, there are few things you’d like to carry out to get yourself grounded.

Remember, these are still manifestation practices. So you have to be fully present as you do them.

The beauty of it, is that it’s completely personal. People have different ways they use to feel better.

Here are just some of the few you can try:

  • Listen to your favorite songs: I’m not talking rock ‘n’ roll here. Rather, your go-to music for unwinding after a stressful day.
  • Make your favorite drink: Some people are coffee fans. Others would prefer a cup of tea or juice. Go with what feels right at the moment.
  • Take a walk: Need to clear your head? Sometimes staying at home is a bad idea. But a casual walk on the street or your neighborhood can work wonders to your mood.

Say your affirmations

Is there any manifestation practice that doesn’t have this? I don’t think so. That’s because they’re super important. affirmations

Remember what we said about programming your subconscious mind to attract the good stuff? This is where you’ll really get to experience the magic.

Come up with your affirmations. They should be phrases that reflect your desired state in the present tense.

For example “I am confident” is way better than. “I will be confident”

So is “I am smart” or “I am relaxed” 

If you notice, each phrase assumes your reality already exists. This is crucial because your subconscious mind will perceive this as your current reality.

And will cause the universe to shape your life accordingly.

Make sure to repeat your affirmations a few minutes before going to bed.

Bonus affirmations for you:

“I have my dream job”

“I love my new partner”

“I have supportive friends”

Practice Gratitude.

Some people review their day like a report card. Worst of all, they drown themselves in the worries from that day. gratitude

Here’s a fact for you: Each day presents something to be grateful for.

Counting your blessings is a great way to feel lighter. And get yourself to be more present.

You appreciate everything. From big to small. Then you realize how much good you’ve got in your life already.

What happens? A better mood plus higher vibration.

Visualize your dream life or day.

I’ll say this. People shouldn’t go to bed without doing something that’ll move their life forward.

One thing that does this is visualizing how you’d actually want your life to look, feel, and sound like.

Of course, as you do this, it’s important to allow yourself to go through all the emotions.

You can close your eyes while doing this. Or stare into space allowing your mind to wander. The choice is yours..

A lot of top performers visualize themselves before a competition. Then they go on to win again and again

Proof that It’s a great way to set your subconscious mind to attract what you want.

Practice Scripting

Saw what we did with affirmations? Well, it’s time to write them down.

Scripting is a unique twist and combination of affirmations and journaling.

With journaling, you write down the desires you want to achieve. While scripting involves writing them like it already happened.

No future tenses. But present. Write your goals or desires like they’ve already happened.

The idea behind is to program your mind to have the right thoughts. Why? Because thoughts become things.

I know some smart people that say you don’t really have a goal until you write it.

 I’ll go on to say you don’t really want your desires achieved until you script them.


Going forward, dedicate 20- 40 minutes before you sleep to practice what you read.

Do that, and you’ll attract the desires you want. It will look so easy once it starts happening.

Because you’ll become a powerful manifestor.

So if you want to experience a reality you deserve, commit yourself to these practices. And then reap the rewards from the universe.

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Why Minimalist Living is Good to Manifest Your Dreams

Looking for a great manifestation hack to turn your desires into reality? 

Start with less. You really don’t need more stuff. And jamming your life with unnecessary activities isn’t helpful either. 

You see, the introduction of minimalist living came as a surprise to many. At first, people felt it was ineffective. Like something straight out of a fiction novel. 

The common question across everyone’s mind at the time was, “will this work long term?”

Today, folks like me now adopt this clutter – free approach to life. We’ve found out there’s so much to gain when you focus on what matters.

But what’s even better, is how the law of attraction, and a minimalist lifestyle blend nicely together.

Like milk and water you’ll notice a major shift in your life once you combine them.

That’s why we’re about to explore how living with a lot less attracts more into your world.

Why is minimalism important in manifestation?

Your space matters a lot.

I’m willing to bet a chunk of your desires fail to materialize due to space problems.

While the law of attraction aims to get rid of junk in your mental space, minimalism takes care of the physical one.

Think of the last time you worked into a messy room. Felt a little bit comfortable right? 

Most of the stuff you’ve got are probably distractions. And in many ways, they cloud your thinking. Making it hard to stay focused or get the desires you want.

Our outside, and inside world are reflections of each other.

And when you think about it…Who enters a messy house without questioning the mental state of the owner?

How minimalism affects manifesting

There’s no denying that what we keep around us impacts our mood. That’s why vision boards are so popular.

Minimalism gives you an opportunity to zone in on what’s important. With less stuff around, you create room for things that truly matter.

Soon, you feel a sense of relief that comes from letting go. No more crowded walkways. No more extra stuff that brings zero fulfilment to you.

The beauty of minimalism is felt once your mind gets clear as a result of getting rid of unwanted stuff. And a clear mind lifts your mood – which in turn, raises your vibration.

And nothing attracts all those goodies from the universe like high vibrations.

I like to tell people “Less is more” goes beyond just a fancy mantra. It’s a way of life. And it opens up room for your desires to flow in. 

How to apply minimalism for effective manifestation

At its core, minimalism maximizes your manifestation efforts.

It’s no secret that we’d all need a little boost in our lives. Especially when it comes to attracting our deepest desires

That’s where your very own minimalist lifestyle shines through. But how? What’s the best way to reap the benefits from becoming a minimalist?

There are two easy steps I’ve found to bring out the minimalist inside you:

Step 1: Adopt a minimalist mindset for manifestation.

You probably know the usefulness of mindset shifts.

The bigger they are, the more rewarding they tend to be. 

Ask yourself “how would a minimalist approach my current situation?” – especially if their goal is to manifest more of what they want.

This question serves as a guide to adopting a winning minimalist lifestyle. Why? Because a true minimalist will look to remove the stuff that doesn’t matter.

You know the ones I’m referring to. That extra bag you bought for no reason. Your friend liked it so you felt like getting one. It also includes that couch, purse or anything that holds little to no meaning in your life 

In the end, your mindset boils down to finding stuff you really care about.

Step 2: Create your list.

A chaotic environment will ruin any chances of you manifesting desires.

There’s no denying this. To avoid that, it’s crucial to come up with a list of 4-5 things you really need.

With this, you’ll be able to focus on what’s truly important. This is a great opportunity for some self-reflection. I know, it sounds a little cliche.

But we could all need a little moment of soul searching on what truly matters.

Everything that makes it on your list should be something that resonates with you.

Once you start, you’ll find out that most materialistic things are irrelevant. Don’t kick yourself too hard though. Piling up things we don’t is something we all struggle with.

What’s important is that you highlight the stuff that lights you up.

Benefits of minimalism in manifesting your desires.

I don’t know about you but I want to see progress in what I do. 

And in my journey through the terrains of manifestation, getting rid of junk in my life has proven more beneficial than most.

So, I figured I share with you some benefits I’ve come to love. Over time, the impact of these benefits will compound. 

And could mean the difference between feeling stuck, and watching your desires unfold.

So are you ready?

Less stress means higher vibrations.

Getting rid of unwanted stuff feels like a huge weight lifted off your shoulders.

Finally you don’t have to worry about the ninety different pairs of shoes. Your hallway isn’t littered with piles of clothes that should have been gone yesterday.

You can finally breathe the fresh air of clarity. Your mind is relaxed. And your mood gets brighter.

These are key moments you experience once you start to declutter. Better moods means higher vibrations. Your energy levels are higher. And the universe is loving every bit of it.

If you’ve found yourself feeling depressed or moody, consider freeing up more space at home. 

There’s no way your desires can manifest when you feel cranky all the time. 

More space boosts your focus.

Distractions, hate ’em or really hate ’em – they never seem to go away.

It’s even more difficult when your home is crowded with stuff you don’t need. 

The law of attraction requires your focus. And your focus largely depends on how well you can zoom out of your surroundings. This allows you to channel your energy efficiently. 

Ever wondered why most meditation rooms are made up of so much space? Because a free environment is essential for a free mind.

When different things battle for your attention, it’s hard to focus on what matters. 

That’s why carving out enough room for your desires to circulate is crucial.

Each day I’m reminded of the importance of minimalism. Coming from a busy day at work to a well organized room is refreshing.

It fills me with so much happiness and clarity. The kind I’d love for you to experience. 

Because let’s face it, nothing gets down when your mind is all over the place.

And a great way to stay focused is to get rid of all that junk.


It’s useful to look at manifestation through the lens of minimalism.

If it’s your first time on this “less is more” path, I hope the benefits speak to you. And if you’re an old timer, my goal is to help you find some encouragement.

With that said, learn to say no to what you don’t need. And yes to stuff that truly matters to you

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Clarity Is The Air We Breathe: Why Some Dreams Die And Others Flourish

A desire poorly expressed is like rolling a dice with the universe hoping to land a big win.

Sure, you might attract a huge gift once in a while. But that’s not the case most times. Usually, you’re left with a reality that’s all over the place.

Things go great one minute for you. And the next, you’re scratching your head with a what-went-wrong look plastered on your face.

Think about it. It’s like that time you landed your dream job only to find out your boss is the most annoying human ever.

Or you finally attract a partner but now they suck the life out of you.

The common reaction to chaos like these is to roll up in bed – with the song “How did this happen? ” playing in the background.

Well, I’ll tell you how it happened. Lack of clarity chokes your desires. Without clarity, dreams wither and die.

After all, it’s the air our desires breathe to manifest the healthy way.

That’s why getting the universe confused on what you want is manifestation suicide.

So it’s crucial you break away from uncertainty, and embrace clarity.

But how? 

Glad you asked. 

Now, we’ll explore some powerful tips to get your manifestation power up to speed with clarity.

Why is clarity so important for your dreams?

We write a book on the importance of clarity in your dreams. But that wouldn’t cover half of what should be said.

You probably know the opposite of clarity, right? Confusion. 

It’s like going on a date and getting bombarded with conflicting info within minutes. Chances are you’re never going on another date.

Clarity gives you perspective. It shapes your mind so reality bends to your will. 

We’ve all got dreams. Big or small. But clarity is that door you’ve got to walk through to reach the other side.

A clear mind gives those dreams the space to flourish. To vibrate, and gradually manifest into your life.

You see, the universe loves when you’re sure about what you want. Clarity is the sun your dreams revolve around.

Let it shine, and your dreams will grow into reality. Dim it with uncertainty or confusion, and your dreams get stuck in your imagination.

What causes you to lose clarity?

We’ve all been faced with limiting beliefs. You might be struggling with one right now.

When you allow them to wrap their chains around you, that’s when things get messy.

Feeling like you’re not good enough is a limiting belief people fight with. Usually, it results from self-rejection

If you were told as a child that you weren’t good enough… Or people doubted your abilities growing up, there’s a high chance you’ll feel unworthy.

This causes you to second guess yourself. Overthink or complicate stuff. 

Soon enough, something that everyone finds easy becomes a complex math problem from you.

You might be saying “fine, I get it. How do I achieve clarity?”

Or “how do I say goodbye to this haunting feeling?”

Well, let’s get into it…

How to ramp up your clarity for a better life

Clarity is freedom. Armed with it, you boost your chances of experiencing your dream life.

And let’s face it, who doesn’t want more freedom to do things they love?

These tips will bring you many steps closer to your dream life.

Focus on what you want

Imagine you set your car GPS to give you directions to a desired location.

But instead of one clear path, it gives you ten. Now you’ve got the unwanted burden of figuring which one to pick.

Welcome to confusion world. Where dreams stay stagnant for ages, and never live.  It’s the last place you want to be when manifesting your desires.

Luckily for you, avoiding it is easy. Simply focus on what you really want to attract. 

Try to keep your list of things small. Yes, I know we tend to have a bucket list the size of a textbook. But cramming desires together makes it tough to focus.

Think of your focus as a way of offering your mind direction. Like a GPS, you don’t want to be stuck on many choices. 

Rather, you’d want the most relevant and important ones.

Write your dreams down..

Writing is like a reaffirming process for your dreams.

Putting your goals on paper solidifies the foundation you’ve built in your mind. I’d suggest you narrow your list of desires even further while writing.

Say you’ve got four things that’ll really rock your world if you had them. For some people, that might still feel overwhelming.

Drop it down to the two most important ones. Although this part is hard, you’ll walk away feeling more confident.

Have a go-to routine.

Sticking to any practice can be difficult. We tend to find a way to complicate stuff even when it looks simple.

The solution, of course, is simple. Create a routine that makes your life easier.

Whether that’s making sure you repeat your affirmations every morning. Or read an uplifting book each afternoon.

Most people struggle to focus because their lives are devoid of special routines. Routines help you form healthy habits. The right ones can shape your focus. And sharpen your mind.


It’s almost too easy.

By allowing yourself to feel, taste and experience the emotions of having your reality, you’re able to build your clarity muscle.

Think of it like proteins. The more you see yourself having all the goodies you deserve, the more that reality solidifies in your mind.

When you paint your desired scene in your mind, it’s easier to focus on it. And the more clarity you attain.

That’s why I’m such a huge believer in visualization. They’ve worked wonders for many, and can do the same for you.

Wrapping it up

If you want a better life through manifestation, focus on a few things.

It’s easy to lose control of what matters when your mind is bouncing all over.

You want to be grounded. To feel present. To inhale the fresh reassuring wave that clarity brings.

The beauty of it all, is that you know when you’re focused. You’re more confident. And you feel energized.

So go out there pump your mind with some oxygenated clarity.

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