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Life’s Secret Prescription – Live Love Laugh

Storm in paradise.

Life has many surprises but hardly do people anticipate storms in paradise. Everyone is fighting a silent battle – depression, family issues, stress, anxiety, work-related issues, and many more others. Most people are struggling to find their footing in the universe but the landmines in their way are slowing them down. They are yet to get it right. Is this the intention of the universe? Is it intentionally sabotaging us and writing our death sentence? Of course not. The universe means well for us. The little mishaps we face are not its creation. If it were up to it, our life in paradise could never be cut short.

The secret prescription.

Bessie Anderson Stanley (1879-1952) wrote a poem in a competition for a magazine contest that asked, “What constitutes success?” She gives an insight into the secret prescription of success.

He has achieved success

who has lived well,

laughed often, and loved much;

who has enjoyed the trust of

pure women,

the respect of intelligent men and

the love of little children;

Bessie Anderson Stanley (1879-1952).

The near 100-word poem has left a permanent mark to date with the words Live Love Laugh. This is the antidote to the storms that you are facing.


If there is anyone who wishes you well at all, then it is the universe. She is like a benevolent mother showing love to all her children indiscriminately. Deliberately look away when your world becomes stormy. Some problems are our creation because we want to live the future today. By doing so, we invite challenges of the future to the present moment yet there is no sufficient grace from the universe to handle them. The universe is whispering something in your ear, “Live one day at a time, my child.” Heed to this advice and you will know no sorrow.


This is the greatest gift from the universe. Love wins all. It conquers all. It withstands everything. It is not only an emotion but also a lifestyle. Love is the weapon that you need to fight your battles successfully. Play your cards right when in the eye of the storm. This is how to use love as a spiritual tool – contradict the expectations of the moment. If people expect you to act with rage, then play cool. When they expect you to walk away, stay put. All your actions must be crowned with love if you want to win your battles.


happiness | laughingLaughter translates to Joy. You are not expected to be happy when things are not good. There is an irony in laughing when the mood is sadness. The universe knows these two sides – Joy and sadness. It is okay to be sad but do not let it affect your spirit. Your spirit is the engine that drives your life’s purpose. Guard it against bad energy because it will stall your life. This is why Bessie Anderson Stanley (1879-1952) writes that we should laugh often. Laughter is medicine to the spirit. It heals your wounds and refuels you for the next winning phase.

The secret prescription to live love laugh is a journey we have a purpose to undertake. Here are some guidelines for this healing lifestyle:

  1. Be flexible.

Flexibility is the ideal path to follow. You should be open to new ideas because nobody knows where their breakthrough lies. Learn to adapt to situations as they come and you will have an easy time coping with challenges. The universe itself speaks to us in different ways. A flexible mindset easily receives communication from it. On the other hand, a fixed mindset is an enemy of progress. You will have a difficult time adapting to the wishes of the universe. Mark you, the universe is the ultimate director of your life. Life gets easier when you align your purpose with it. Flexibility helps you adapt to the live love laugh manual.

  1. Know your limits.

Sometimes we are very ambitious because maybe we see the wisdom in wanting to win everything at once. The secret prescription to live love laugh is to operate within your ability. It is okay to dream big but also be aware of your current capabilities. Until you develop these new strengths, your prior attempts are futile. Do not take on an elephant with the strength of an antelope. Doesn’t nature teach you how predators hunt? There is prey that the lion hunts alone and others that require the whole pride to put in combined efforts. Likewise, accept help when you need it.

  1. Have definite goals.

Definite goals are easily achievable. Avoid having amorphous goals because you will not direct your focus and energy where you need it most. To live love laugh, you need to set your parameters and at the back of your mind know how you will fill up your space. Contrary to this, you will achieve little to nothing in the long run. Is this what you want? Your definite goals should also have a time frame so that you can gauge your progress bit by bit. Spirituality too requires you to plan. It does not operate in isolation.

  1. Define your destination.

What do you see on your plane, train, or bus tickets? There is common information in all of them – the boarding place, destination, and price of the ticket. It is important to define your destination because you can easily live the lifestyle Bessie Anderson Stanley (1879-1952) describes in her poem. You cannot afford to live a purposeless life, love the wrong people, or laugh in the wrong company. All your efforts will count as worthy with your destination defined.

The secret prescription to live love laugh is intentional and its progress measurable. One thing we should NEVER miss out on is the universe’s appetite for well-thought plans. Spirituality and mindfulness are inseparable. The quicker you sync how they work for you, the more blessings you will receive from the universe.

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Spiritual Threats to Your Success

Spiritual threats.

Spiritual threats are closely related to obstacles. However, unlike them, they do not pose an immediate danger. They remain a cause for concern because if not addressed on time, they will manifest into obstacles. You won’t want that, will you? Nature ensures that it leaves telltale signs for you to identify these threats on time before things get out of hand. The problem is that we hardly pay attention beyond what we can see. This is not how the spiritual world operates.

I remember before the communications authority migrated us from analog to digital broadcasting services in June 2015. Watching telly was a big deal for most people (myself included) because we had to manually set up our aerials to face in one direction which we believed the communication authority had some sort of substation. Failure to do this will make you have some scrambled signal and you will have a lot of trouble watching your favorite shows. Your connection with the spiritual world is like how our signal was set up in those days of analog broadcasting services. You need to be aligned with the universe’s purpose for you to have an insight into the spiritual world. Here is a whole list of spiritual threats to your success that you must watch out for:

  1. Dishonesty.

It starts in very simple ways – how you choose to hide important information from your friend for your benefit. It could look harmless but over time, it grows into a monstrous habit. Dishonesty will make people extra cautious when dealing with you. News spread fast and bad news even faster. Dishonesty will cut you off from those the universe has prepared to be your destiny connectors. This threatens your success all around. What could have taken a day to accomplish will take weeks or even months.

  1. Envy.

Envy is the mother of all ill intentions. At first, it is as simple as wishing that you were in someone else’s position of advantage. It grows into wishing that you could replace them instead of securing your place beside them. The universe designed success to be complementary and not a monopoly. Everybody’s star can shine brighter without dimming that of the next person. Do not entertain envy because it will cost you your future success. You will be isolated.

  1. Isolation.

Isolation is not a very good place to find yourself in. It does not matter how hurt you are that you would want nothing to do with other people. The universe purposes that we are all interdependent. You will need my help at some point and so will I need yours. Isolation is a threat to your success because it cuts you off from important people and resources without whom you can do nothing much.

  1. Disobedience to authority.

The universe has a hierarchy of authority that everyone is accountable to. It is in social units like family, sports teams, and community groupings. Authority is further found in governments and other lawful bodies. There is a problem when you constantly find yourself on the wrong side of the law. Your disobedience will make you lose nature’s trust. There is a lot that you will be limited to without the blessings of the universe.

  1. Lack of a routine.

Routines are very important in developing healthy success patterns. They are not only physical plans but also spiritual in the sense that they engrave a habit into your spirit to the extent of automatically fulfilling what you ought to at an appointed time. Develop a routine that you will faithfully adhere to if you want to secure your success.

  1. Stress and anxiety.

These two are toxic to your success. Stress will make you less effective in how you work while anxiety will further reduce your productivity. Nature does not want you to worry about everything going on around you. Stress and anxiety stem from your spirit and poison every effort you put anywhere. During stressful times, practice meditation and spiritual mindfulness. These spiritual tools will make all your insecurities vaporize.

  1. Insomnia.

I think the main reason for night and day is for us not to be able to do anything at night because of the darkness. Amazingly, it is like our eyelids are also synced to automatically close at night. However, we have somehow managed to find our way around this by inventing electricity and other sources of light to extend our working period. Long working hours without rest pose a danger to your efficiency and you can cause accidents at your place of work. Learn to have enough rest.

  1. Hopelessness.

The feeling of hopelessness is home to a crushed spirit. You feel defeated with zero incentive to move on with your life. This is bad news for your success. Despair will make you do a lot of things because you have no motivation to do anything. Quickly move away from your corner of self-pity because it will gradually kill your dreams until they are no more.

  1. Doubting the wisdom of the universe.

Beginning to question the reason for existence is a red flag. Your success is anchored in the laws of the universe and any deviant thoughts are a threat to it. Doubting the intentions of the universe is like challenging your maker. Get away from anything that makes you doubtful. Instead, seek ways to grow your faith in nature.

  1. Fear.

Fear threatens everything you have ever stood for. It makes you question your spirituality and rolls back on the progress that you have made. Matter of fact, it is a spiritual weapon that dares you to turn a blind eye to your beliefs because of unspecified consequences. Fear can stop you in your tracks. Do not entertain any threats no matter how subtle they are. Constantly focus on your grand plan for success.

These spiritual threats to your success can be overcome when you put deliberate efforts into it. They could come out as veiled threats or actual ones but your response towards them matters the most. So, what is the best way to fight off these spiritual threats? They require a spiritual solution – spiritual awakening.

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Spiritual Obstacles and How to Overcome Them

What are spiritual obstacles?

They are unseen obstacles standing in the way of your success. Unlike physical blockades that can be easily identified, you need special insight to overcome spiritual obstacles. Most people are not even aware that they are prisoners of spiritual forces. They see their failures as ‘normal’. Man is made up of the physical and spiritual yet the spiritual part is hardly attended to largely because it is invisible. He who figures out spiritual blockades and how to overcome them has won the Holy Grail.

The spiritual versus the physical.

The spiritual and physical are always in conflict. They pull in different directions. This is how the universe operates. The spirit dominates the physical because it connects directly with the universe. Spiritual obstacles manifest when you are not in touch with your spirit. They manifest in the following ways:

  1. The spirit of the roundabout.

You are familiar with roundabouts on roads. This spiritual obstacle operates like them. They make you go around one route without continuing with your journey. Nothing meaningful happens in your life although you can see that you are moving. When this obstacle manifests, only other people can see what is happening but you cannot see it. You have to allow them to guide you to overcome it.


fotgivenessOne major way this spiritual obstacle manifests is through Unforgiveness. You become unable to overcome the past hurt and it blocks your progress. Unforgiveness is succeeded by revenge. At this stage, there is nothing meaningful you can think of except for ‘getting your right’. Matter of fact, nothing can dissuade you from this path you have chosen. You have to allow the voice of reason to prevail. Let go of those who have hurt you because it hurts you more than it hurts them. Except you embrace forgiveness, you will keep on moving on a roundabout – finishing your energy with zero gains. Forgiveness is the path to spiritual healing. You become stronger with every experience.

  1.  The spirit of almost there but not yet there.

Athletes are the most experienced sportspeople who experience this. As they approach the end of the race, they can see the finish line but it looks further than before. They are close to finishing the race but their energy is failing them. This is exactly how it is in the spirit. As you are almost bagging the prize, your energy begins to fail you. You start relaxing because the end is near. You begin having the illusion that you have already made it while you are yet to. Don’t swell with pride because anything can happen.

Be appreciative.

Don’t despise the support you have received until now. Although you are almost crossing the finish line, your support base is as important now as it was before. Nothing changes their position in your life. You still need them now to succeed and even in your post-victory life. Do not demean those who sacrificed their ambitions for your sake. You are not better than them. The universe granted you favor at that time.

  1.     The spirit of mark timing.

Have you ever seen soldiers marching in a parade? The way they beautiful march in military fashion! This is the case even when they mark time – some sort of marching without any horizontal movement. They can do this for a long time. It’s beautiful but not progressive because they remain in one place. The spirit of mark timing operates this way. It makes you stagnate in one place.

Don’t stop working hard.

It is good that you have made significant progress in your life. You may have even done much better than your peers. Be very careful that this spirit does not overtake you because you will mark time in one spot. The fact that you have outdone your peers is not a license to relax. Hard work does NOT replace qualifications. Continuously strive to be better and the spirit of stagnation shall not catch up with you.

  1. The spirit of backwardness.

Sometimes everything seems to be working against you. You try everything possible but still nothing happens. What is even more saddening is the fact that this spirit haunts you wherever you go. In some sort of way, every gain you make is rolled back and you have to return to square one. It is frustrating and except you are strong-willed, you may give up easily. The cause of this misfortune (for lack of a better word) is selfishness.

Be generous.

According to mortal calculations, 2 – 1 = 1. However, this is not true in the spirit world. Sharing is not in any way subtraction. Piling up everything for yourself does not mean that you shall make it. Nature looks at how considerate you are of other people. It operates on the law of giving (I will talk about it soon). There is gaining in giving. Selflessness will make you start progressing. You will reach new heights because the universe will work to reward your generosity.

  1. The spirit of rejection.

What is it with people rejecting you always? You have done nothing to them yet they do not want anything to do with you. Rejection is a spirit. It has nothing to do with the physical. When there is a spiritual disconnect, some things don’t just add up no matter how hard you try. You may see those less deserving being loved by those who are against you. Matter of fact, they are the real enemies of progress yet people don’t see that.


What happens when there is a faulty tap at your home? You call the plumber to come for repair to avoid water wastage. Similarly, when you notice the spirit of rejection creping on you, call the universe (the plumber) to fix the leaking tap (your rejection). We communicate with the spiritual through prayers. Take a step back during times of rejection and reconnect with the universe. Let the Almighty fix the leaking tap for you and things will be back on track.

These five spiritual obstacles are hidden from those who are not in touch with the spirit. What will they do anyway even if they know? As for you, you are now enlightened and you know what to do. 

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Laws of Natural Justice

Avenues to justice.

The high injustice in the world makes people look for every means possible to get it. Sometimes people seek justice through unimaginable means yet they somehow seek to justify it. The judiciary arm of government is responsible for the administration of justice. It is the last hope for civilians who have been denied justice. The courts have jurisdiction to rule on issues presented before them. The truth is that access to justice through the courts is expensive in many countries. How many cases against the rich and mighty have been dismissed on account of lack of evidence? They buy their way and the poor are left to suffer in silence hoping that nature shall avenge for them.

I recently came across a ruling by the High court on a matter involving robbery. A man had been sentenced to life imprisonment for robbing a foreign national of his mobile phone worth $300. There was sufficient evidence to warrant this judgment. But how come there is hardly a conviction against civil servants misappropriating funds even up to $1,000? Again, we return to the question of evidence presented in court. It could have been unsatisfactory, even if they are indeed guilty, to warrant their conviction. You can evade the justice system in your country but not natural justice. It shall eventually catch up with you. Nothing is hidden before the eyes of nature and in due time, your actions shall catch up with you.

Here are five laws of natural justice:

1. The law of the harvest.

Harvesting is the last stage in farming. It is preceded by tilling the land, planting, weeding, and irrigation. A bountiful harvest is only guaranteed if you were keen on the whole planting process with the constant being fertile soils and favorable weather. Again, it is common sense that you cannot reap what you did not sow. If you planted carrots, you will reap the same. So it is if you planted any other crop. There is some sort of magic in harvesting – multiplication of what you planted. It is the basic reason for farming in the first place. This is exactly how the universe’s law of harvest works in the justice system.

You will harvest, in abundance, the theft and dishonesty you sowed among your brothers. Nature has a way of paying you multiple times exactly what you did to other people. The universe is a fertile soil that gives in abundance what is planted in it. The same is true if you sowed good seed. Your actions will come back to benefit you. There is no single action that is lost into space. The universe conceives your words, thoughts, and actions. A day is coming when you shall harvest in plenty.

2. The law of a double-edged sword.

Probably a sword is not the best example to give when it comes to matters about justice. But it is the most relevant example at the moment. Here is why: a double-edged sword cuts on both sides. You should be careful as you use it because it could also cut you. Justice is like a weighing scale that must balance on both sides. Justice to you must also be justice to the other person. It is never one-sided. The scales of justice must balance.

The universe serves justice on a balanced scale. Some people cry foul that they have been sidelined yet it is not true. Their opponent on the other side deserved justice too. Justice is sacred. It cannot be stained by favoritism because it will cease to be just. Always bear this in mind as you pursue justice – justice has two sides.

3. The law of secret cards.

There is no secret card when it comes to justice. It becomes blackmail. Justice has no secrecy. Everything is explainable and you can follow through on how a particular decision was arrived at. People do a lot of things in the name of justice but time exposes them for who they are – blackmailers. There is a habit of putting someone in a tight spot that they may return you a favor they owe you. Once you find yourself doing this, you are pursuing something else but not justice. You will be exposed for who you are and your plans to defeat justice shall be scattered.
You must always come to the table of justice with clean hands. You can be sure that you will get exactly what you deserve.

Natural justice is raw. It does not need anything to be added to it to look appealing. There is only one weapon of securing justice from the universe – be truthful to yourself and everyone you meet. It will set you free and serve you with exactly what you deserve.

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4. The law of timing and obstruction of justice.

The law of the timing of justice from the universe states that justice delayed is justice denied. Timing is very important in the administration of justice. Not only should justice be done but it should also be seen to be done. Natural justice operates within these parameters.

You cannot cancel the administration of justice when it is due time. You will face the full wrath of nature. Consider the example of running water. What happens when you block its path? The water will find an alternative route or force through the blockade you have put. This is why it is advisable not to build houses on the path of water or else you will be a victim of floods when they happen. You will solely be to blame.

Similarly, never block the administration of justice. The more you do it, the more you increase the chances of it blowing back on your face. Be a supporter of the law and not a fugitive. Facilitate justice throughout.
Justice is governed by principles that shield it from turning it as a weapon against other people. These are the four main pillars of justice upon which it thrives.

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Manifesting the Right Habits for Creation


It is making something new that did not exist before. Creation is one part of life that many people are struggling with because it has no manual, at least in the meantime. While some people think that creation ended with the universe many years ago, others are co-creators with it. Creation is endless. There will always be a need for it throughout our lives. Nature is designed that we become co-creators with her. Everyone lives in their little world which co-exists in the greater universe. You have the responsibility of creating what you want in your world. This is a responsibility you cannot delegate. The scope of your creative powers is limited by your imagination. You can only reach a target that you have set your eyes on. One more thing, creation is not a shared responsibility with your friends. They have their bit to do in their worlds as you have in yours.

Re-creation NOT Recreation.

There is the question of what your role is on existing creations. You have the mandate to do as you please – do away with them entirely or re-create them to what you desire. The former is a bad idea and the latter works best when you have clear intentions. Before this revelation, you could have found yourself at a place where people used to make decisions for you without your input. They created things in your world that they thought was the best for you but it turns out that they are not. You are not a lame duck. This is the time for you to modify them as you please. Consider the example of someone who started a business out of peer pressure that it was performing well yet it turns out it is not. What creation route can they take? RE-CREATION.

You can turn around your misery into something fruitful. This is the path of re-creation. However, some habits guide creation. Here they are:

  1. The right intent.

You should have the right motive to create what you intend to. You can hide your intentions from everyone else but not the universe. Creation should be done with the intention of posterity. It should not be ill-intentioned to hurt somebody else. “How about the creation of war equipment? Or even learning martial arts? Isn’t it the creation of a destructive lifestyle?” In the words of a wise man, it is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war. Your intention of creation should be clear if you want it to stick.

  1. Words of affirmation.

You should speak life over what you are creating or intending to. You cannot be planning to get a good spouse yet you go around talking ill of the other gender. You should confess that the spouse you are creating for yourself is a good man/woman. Do not describe their gender in harsh unprintable words even if you were hurt before. It is someone else who did it, not the person you are creating as your spouse. This is for anyone who has had a bad dating experience: you have the power to create your partner. As you do it, speak life over them. Set them apart from the previous ones who hurt you. The universe will reward you with the same person you created. Make use of this trick. affirmation

  1. A solid vision.

A good creator already has in mind how they would want their creation to end up. You must conceive the bigger picture before you begin creating. Failing to observe this is like a contractor starting a building without having its architectural plan. Something like putting the cart before the horse. Moreover, you cannot create something that you are clueless about how it will look like in the end. You may end up creating a nightmare for yourself and it may be too late to turn around. A carpenter knows what a table looks like even before he starts working. At the end of his work, he can be confident to tell his client that he now has a table. Creation works in the same manner.

  1. The foresight of challenges.

A good creator can foresee the challenges in his creation and take steps to mitigate them. Creation is not an event but a process that starts from the time the creator conceives the vision to when he actualizes it. Do not be discouraged to pursue your vision of creation because of the challenges ahead. Instead, consider thinking about how you will handle them. You will not waste any time with this approach because of your high level of preparedness.

  1. Do not seek validation.

Seeking validation before creation is complete is toxic to your future. Your progress in creating what you would like to manifest will make other people want to imitate you. Let your work speak for you when the time for manifestation comes. The trick is not to be proud while you are yet to finish your creation. Pride can ruin your chances of manifesting the right thing. Be modest even when people heap praise on you for being a good creator. manifestation

  1. Preparation for survival.

The environment you will put your creation in also matters. Look at the place where you want to manifest your dreams. Will they thrive or be choked to death? Your creation efforts are useless if you have not prepared the right environment for it. Nature considered this wisdom in creation. Look at the slow tortoise who hides in his shell when in danger, the chameleon who camouflages in its environment, the antelope with sharp horns and speed to run from its predator, the powerful kicks of a zebra, the slippery scales of fish, the powerful tail of a crocodile and its tough skin, and many more examples from existing creation. Your creation must be adapted for survival. There is no point in creating something that will soon perish.

The right habits for creation will give you positive feedback. Kingmakers have mastered the art of creating powerful Kings and great policymakers are geniuses at creating working policies. The secret is adapting the right habits for creation. 

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The Honest Friend

Who is an honest friend?

He/she is someone completely transparent in what they do and cannot think of shortchanging their friends. An honest friend has no hidden agenda against the friends. They are like an open book that can easily be read. Who wouldn’t want this kind of perfect friendship? It’s like the proverbial manna falling from Heaven.

Cultivating Heaven-like friendships.

Such perfect friendships are not served on a platter. The good news is that the universe foresaw our dilemma and sent nature to light our path. Mother nature plays an important role in forming friendships. She is like the sea where fishermen go fishing. Depending on where you cast your net, you catch different fish – the big and small ones, and those with or without scales. All these types of fish are in the same sea. Similarly, where do you go looking for friendships? Nature has offered you unlimited places you can fish connections, but there is a catch.

Different places have different types of people just as different parts of the sea have different fish, either in the deep or shallow waters.

1. Entertainment places.

They include bars & restaurants, hotels, swimming pools, movie cinemas, or whatever place that you go to have fun. These spaces hold different personalities but there is a common denominator cutting all across – they are people with a free spirit living in the moment. Ask yourself whether this is the type of person you are ready to have as friends or better yet as a soulmate. Do they possess the characteristics of the person you are looking for? Do not mind about their looks because friendships go beyond that. Allow your spirit to feel their vibe and meet before your bodies come together.

2. Worship places.

They include spiritual spaces like churches, mosques, temples, or wherever people go to fellowship with the supernatural. The type of people you will find here focus on the spiritual aspect of life more than anything else. They devote their time to seek spiritual connection without which they feel lost in a different world. You will want to reconsider friendships (or probably making soul ties) with them if you do not subscribe to their lifestyle. It will be like two people living in two different worlds. However, it can work for you if you are ready to make painful adjustments to fit in their lifestyle. Beware that you can easily be displaced by somebody else who is ‘their type’.

3. Online spaces.

They include spaces like social media platforms and other internet-created spaces that allow people to bond from all over the world. Still, there is nature’s hand in this. She is in total control. The internet hosts different types of people. Caution should hold your right hand and lead you to safety when in online spaces. It does not matter whether you are doing business or living off the internet for fun. The problem is that unlike in the two previous spaces (entertainment and worship places), you cannot judge someone’s character easily. You are likely to make the mistake of your life if you are not careful. You can also meet your destiny connectors on online spaces (like I did!).
These three spaces are the major friendship spots that nature offers. Of course, they can increase as time goes by. A case in point is the online space. It was hardly known until the millennials led us into it. It is now one of the largest places where people make friendships – just behind a keyboard.

The fertility of the universe.

Let’s go a bit into farming. Do you know of those fields where anything can grow? You just have to plant your seed and you are assured of a bountiful harvest. The universe is exactly like those fields! It is marked by rich soils and favorable weather. The weather is the effort you put towards making your friendships work. The rich soil is the fertility of the universe to multiply your seed even a hundredfold! As you start a friendship, ask yourself what you have to offer. Do not focus much on what your new friend is bringing to the table. The law of attraction by the universe will work in your favor. When you bring honesty, your friendship shall dwell on it. Sprinkle some love on your friendship and hatred shall be a foreign language in your friendship. When you offer support in a budding friendship, you shall never be backstabbed in the entire life of your friendship.

Tips to thrive in honest friendships.

1. Your word is your bond.
What you are looking for in an honest friendship is exactly what the other person is searching for. Be bound by your word and all your friendships shall be devoid of deceit. The moment you start shortchanging people is when you lose an honest friendship that you have built with so much struggle.

2. Give back to the community.
Honest friendships are selfless that is why they are so powerful. Your friendships can take you beyond where you had thought because the universe read your pure intentions. Learn to give back to the community to support other people who are at their start-up stage. It is the least you can do to support mother nature.

3. Submit to nature.
Submission is required to thrive in honest friendships. It puts a mark on your personality – a mark of greatness. Mark you, you found an honest friend under nature’s guidance. She led you right to where your male or female friend was standing! Look at you now thinking of a happily-ever-after with them (haha).

4. Positive affirmations.
Always say something positive about your friendships. Do not condemn yourself to anything bad. Beware of what you say even in the privacy of your chambers. Speak life about your friendships and it shall eventually manifest.

Don’t lament about not finding an honest friend. You have not looked under your chin. The answer to your prayer is almost near.

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The Power of Energy Exchange

The 48 laws of power.

Let us draw reference from Robert Greene’s famous book The 48 laws of power. Law 10 states Avoid the Unhappy and the Unlucky. There is a proven pattern observed in people who associate with negative energy. They are most likely to be absorbed into the dark pit by associating with negativity. Consider the example of two people pulling each other. One is standing on a table and the other is standing on the ground. Who between the two will pull the other to the level he/she is in?

Of course, the one standing on a lower ground can pull the one standing on a table easily. This example speaks volumes regarding the power of energy exchange. We are in a state of constant giving and taking with the universe. We can either be on the winning or losing side depending on how we relate with the universe. There are a few ground rules to observe. Here is the ultimate guide from the universe into the power of energy exchange:



1. Your choice of a life partner.

Your life partner could be the spring to your success or the missile to destroy you. They are an important part of the connection between the universe and you. The energy exchange between you two cannot be ignored. For most people (at least as is supposed to be), their spouse is their best friend and closest confidant. Considering this as the ideal situation, what energy do you draw from them? If they have a negative vibe, they will transmit the same to you. Such energy exchange is very unhealthy and the more reason why you should make this choice cautiously. There is a reason they are called soulmates. You create an everlasting soul tie with them (unless broken by other means).

A soulmate is like a pipe connection. What happens when the pipe is dipped in dirty water and you suck the other end? You will drink dirty water. Ew! How disgusting! A bad connection like this is also replicated with the partner you get intimate with. Intimacy is sacred and that is why it is reserved for married people – those in a long-term life commitment. When you sleep around with anyone, you risk contaminating your spirit with a bad vibe. This will be replicated in the things you do.

2. Your beliefs and philosophy in life.

We all have our beliefs in life. It should not necessarily be religion. It can be a life principle or philosophy that you hold dear. A belief is a strong conviction in something. It informs very many things that you do. You should be able to determine one thing easily – what do you stand to gain or lose with the beliefs and/or philosophy that you hold? The answer to this question explains what kind of energy exchange happens between you two.

There are different theories about the universe and creation. Without going into details, they can either set you on a path of greatness or radicalize you to destruction. Consider these two kinds of people – one believes that God will help their business grow and another who puts actual effort towards business growth. Who between them shall succeed? Positive energy is inherited from the universe by the beliefs you hold. You should not believe in just anything. Ask yourself hard questions before subscribing to it. The issue of beliefs should not be taken lightly. Its misuse will make you end up disconnecting from the destiny that the universe had put on your path.

3. Your mind’s engagement.

The brain is very important in facilitating energy exchange. Your thoughts are the beginning of your glory or walk to shame.

“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” – Lao Tzu.

As you can see, the mind is the genesis of the whole process of energy exchange with the universe. Should you not be careful, then your thoughts will manifest into your worst reality. Think carefully about what you feed your mind – the books you read, the things you watch online, and what you train your mind to learn. You should feed your mind positive energy to conceive and manifest the same. Your mind cannot exist in a vacuum, there must always be something constantly on it. It better be what you want to reap. 



4. Your environment.

Your environment is something you would want to watch out for if you want to conceive positive energy. A lot of things are determined by it. No wonder it is advisable to ensure kids grow up in a healthy environment. The mystery in an environment is deep. Look at the demography of the city you live in. Like most cities, it is probably naturally segmented into social classes. There is a place where the rich live – posh driving lanes, good cars, and houses. There is also a place for those at the bottom of the pyramid – narrow paths (a car can hardly pass. Anyway, who owns one?) and congested housing.

The rich live among the rich and the poor among themselves. A stranger in a foreign neighborhood is easily recognizable because they do not identify with the vibe of the place they are visiting. This is how powerful your environment is. When you live in a place of negativity, it will gradually become part of you. You want to change your energy, consider a change of environment.

5. Your speech.

The universe is a funny space. What you say jokingly can manifest in your life. This is why you have to think twice before speaking any idle words. When your speech has negative energy constantly, the same will be repeated to you. This energy exchange is true if your speech is positive. Moreover, do not entertain negative talk from other people because they are creating negativity in your space.

The talks you listen to can fill your mind and be the source of a bad vibe. Nothing is negligible. Learn to take words seriously or you will learn it the hard way when negativity infiltrates your world.

The power of energy exchange is a real issue. These five points are the major gates to it. You should guard them jealously to protect your space.

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How to Let Go of Destructive Habits (using spiritual tools)

As I sat to type this blog post yesterday, my youngest one came up to me, poked her fingers upon my trousers to understand why I was not attending her tea party.

She had prepared tea for me and was waiting for me in her kitchen. Plastic cups, water instead of tea, a giant cookie that she gobbled on as she stared at me. A small chair that didn’t fit my weight, I sat on the floor, gazing at her talking to me about how difficult it is to let go of this bad habit.

What bad habits do you have? I asked in amusement.

Oh, you know daddy…. I am a clumsy eater…I do not like to share my cookie… not even with you!” crumbs of cookies fell from the sides of her mouth as she then giggled at herself and then told me to get back to work.


While my daughter was being quite introspective about her bad habits, I realized that not all of us are that mindful or even aware of the destructive habits we might be engaging in and how these habits have now become our own worst enemies.

So what are these Destructive habits and how does one cultivate these?

It’s simple. Destructive habits are any set of routines that you follow almost automatically. An example of these includes getting angry and snapping immediately after someone else disagrees with you, feeling depressed or anxious when things do not go your way, and blaming it all on yourself.

How exactly does one cultivate these destructive habits? 

Imagine you are a kid who has just learned to voice your words out, you are likely to mimic or repeat words of your immediate family members. Now I do not mean that your destructive habits are solely adapted or learned through early childhood experiences, but they do play a vital role in aiding them for the future.

Once you have learned or rather observed that by shouting or getting angry at another person, you can get away with anything, you are likely to continue that behavior, irrespective of its consequences. So even as an adult, you are likely to first use the automatic habitual way of acting rather than be aware that it might not be the best behavior to engage in. So you can cultivate destructive habits, from anywhere, school., friends, college, peers, or just yourself. 

One interesting fact about these destructive habits is that once you find that there is a certain degree of comfort that is associated with them, you are always going to engage in them. I call them COPING MECHANISM. Every time my colleague feels anxious about presenting in front of a large audience or people, she has to light a cigarette only then will her presentations go amazingly well. Now, this has become so ingrained in her that she cannot go without a cigarette before every presentation.

So there have to be some repercussions of these destructive habits right?

Engaging in any activity that is meant to harm you physically, mentally, or spiritually qualifies as being a destructive habit. It might feel like it gives you a kick or a boost of adrenaline or makes you look cool in front of others, but is it worth it? 

The repercussions are either external or internal. External pain could be in the form of physical injury to pain or wounds. But the most severe damage that would be felt would be an internal one. They could also cause an imbalance in your chakras, for example, if you engage in overthinking, fail to stop your racing thoughts every time you are faced with an uncertain situation, you are likely to block your crown chakra and experience feelings of confusion.

So how does one let go of their Destructive habits?

Define your motive. 

I read this quote somewhere…Bad habits are spiraling slides that drag you round and round down the narrowing end of a cone that eventually ends up in a dark, tight, confining spot. So the first thing that you can do to let go of your destructive habits is to define your motive for engaging in the other habit. Decide what you truly wish to gain by engaging in this particular habit. Is it a sense of calm? Relaxation, achievement? 

You cannot engage or do something without knowing the “WHY” 

Journal it down :

I have found this to be one of the best techniques to begin with, any new spiritual or mental journey, writing. The reason why writing will help you in setting yourself free from your destructive habits is that when you write you are truly aware. You are directing your entire concentration upon solely the one thing that you are going to do, ie, define which new habits are you going to engage in now?

Here’s an exercise I would like you to try.

My Destructive Habit




Advantage of engaging in it




Disadvantage of engaging in it(Cons)



My new healthy habits :





You can always write the feelings associated with the pre destructive habit phase and post that once you are engaging in the healthier ones.

  • Meditation:

Since a lot of you would already be familiar with the usual way of meditation for the use of change or to start a new spiritual journey, I thought this time I would introduce you to a newer version of it. This one just requires you to imagine yourself already engaging in the newer evolved habit.

For example, let’s say you wish to get rid of this bad habit of shouting at your subordinate. The destructive habit you cultivated was that you shouted at him in front of others and also made him look like a fool. Now every time you see him, you remember his mistake and wish to engage in the same destructive habit.

Here, I would ask you to either lie down in the Savasana pose or simply sit back in a comfortable position, close your eyes. Now imagine the same subordinate is coming in front of you. Yes, you are bound to feel angry, irritated, frustrated. Let those thoughts associated with snapping, bursting out, go. 

Tell him assertively what you would like him to do, instead of shaming him, belittling him, or targeting him. Be as assertive as possible. Maybe you can do better next time…just ask me if you ever need any help would work too. Next, slowly imagine him feeling a bit better too as well as yourself. 

Now gradually open your eyes. You have successfully cultivated a new healthier habit. YAY!

  • Crystals and affirmations : 

Many crystals are available in the market that work upon the exact chakral habit you wish to evolve from. For example, amethyst would be beneficial if you wish to let go of the destructive habit of overthinking or getting anxious. I use it too. Always make sure you have washed or sun-bathed your crystal before you use it. I often try to pair with my affirmation, eg, I set myself free of these racing thoughts, I welcome mental peace. I am open to receiving new positive vibrations from the universe. 

Hopefully, these tricks should help you to let go of the destructive habits and adapt to newer healthier ones! 

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