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A gift from above.

There are many blessings from the universe but the greatest one is your partner. Do not worry if you have none at the moment because that blessing is in the offing. Being single is a time to discover yourself but it gets easier when you are paired up with somebody for a lifetime – your partner. Nature brings them into your life in due time, never too late nor too early. However, we have a rough time before we adjust to them. We tend to push our partners away when we could use their help. Some people even say hurtful words towards them when they did not mean it. These ten tips will help you understand your partner better:

1.     Read their moods.

Your partner is human just like you. They have their high and low moments. You need to read between the lines. Understand their reasons before you blame them for not doing something right. It is a common assumption that females are the moody ones in a relationship. This is not entirely true. Male partners can be moody too. They may not want to talk about it, act out of self-entitlement, and vent all of this to their partners. Refrain from arguing if this happens. You can discuss what happened when they are in better moods.

2.     Learn their habits and lifestyle.

The beauty of nature is diversification. We all are different from each other – even our partners whom we suppose are most compatible with us. Do not assume that your partner will love something because you love it. Yes, they may but there is a good chance they may also not like it. Before you impose anything on them, learn their habits and lifestyle. This is the whole essence of dating. Study your partner’s habits and you will realize that the universe’s choice for your life partner is someone with whom you share a lot. Embrace this choice and you will have zero regrets in the future.

3.     Learn their beliefs and philosophy.

“What belief and/or philosophy does your partner hold?” You should be able to comfortably answer this question. It gets better when both of you stand on common ground. Together you can manifest your desires and pray for blessings from the universe. Anyway, two heads are better than one. Your partner is someone you should be able to confide your worst fears in. They are placed in your life to fulfill your manifestation journey. As such, you should completely learn their beliefs and philosophy. You will make a good couple when you agree on this phase.

4.     Accommodate their ambitions.

The ambitions of your partner automatically form part of you. Find space to accommodate their ambitions and work together to achieve them. When you both intertwine your ambitions, the universe blesses your union with success. The achievement of either of your dreams will make both of you happy. You can count your blessings together as a couple and nothing shall be too difficult for you to overcome. Accommodating your partner’s ambitions will create a stronger soul connection. It is what we all want with our partners. Isn’t it?

5.     Find space in their destiny.

The universe has different destinies for all of us, even those in relationships. If you want to understand your partner better, create your space in their destiny. Everything they do is towards taking care of their destiny. You effectively make them take care of you too as part of it. They will take care not to hurt you or shut you out of their lives because you are already a firm part of it. The relationship grows stronger when both partners create space in each other’s destiny.

6.     Check your horoscopes.

Have you taken the time to check your partner’s horoscope? If not, make a point of doing so. Horoscopes are a forecast into the future based on the position of the stars and planets at the time of their birth. It is a proven way of determining someone’s character. This is something you need if you want to understand your partner. You will get to know their behavior beforehand and get ready to handle them.

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   Understand their position in your life.

Sometimes your relationship may not work because you did not read the handwriting on the wall. The universe brings different people our way, each of them ordained with a purpose. Not everyone is destined to become your partner. Forcing them to become one will end up hurting both of you. Some people are simply destiny connectors. They have come into our lives to shine a light on our way at an appointed time and then go away. No hard feelings. Understand the role of your partner in your life and listen keenly to what the universe is trying to tell you.

8.     Penetrate their mind and emotions.

Go beyond the physical when relating with your partner. Get to know what they think and their opinions over a range of issues. This will make you understand them better and avoid unnecessary conflict between you. You should be able to predict their reaction to an issue at any given point. You are now their partner anyway, not some random stranger.

9.     Mirror strategy.

How do you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror? It feels good to see an image of yourself. Similarly, your partner needs to see themselves in you. You can understand them better when you mirror their actions. They will have nothing to hide from you because you are their mirror and who does not like to watch themselves anyway? This strategy works mostly when you want to win someone’s trust.

10. Help, don’t criticize.

Your partner needs to feel comfortable around you. Help them to become better in their strengths if you want to understand them better. Their success is equally yours. Your partner will open to you more when they are convinced that your intentions are genuine. This is a safe space to understand them better and register your help.

Never mistreat your partner because you will be in contempt of nature’s benevolence towards you. These ten ways will help you understand them better.

Most people think of love as many things but not as a weapon. Here is an eye-opener – love is a weapon. A deadly one to conquer and win. It is what your nemesis will not see coming their way. However, one thing is guaranteed – the weapon of love will make you victorious.

Here is an interesting strategy used by militaries worldwide when in war. They have a hard time when they invade a territory and their enemies have blended with the locals. They cannot launch blanket attacks because innocent civilians will be hurt. They use acts of love to smoke them out. The men and women in uniform bring humanitarian aid to these war-torn places. It should be something that the locals are having an extreme shortage of, for example, food, water, or medical aid. What love! But it is a weapon camouflaged in acts of love. Slowly by slowly, they win over the trust of the locals who silently trade in the location, identity, or both of the enemy that lives within them. The fear innocent civilians have of the soldiers is replaced by trust. They develop faith in them that they are going to keep them safe. Without these acts of love, soldiers cannot easily win the battle against the enemy. Love turns out to be a powerful weapon almost equivalent to as deadly as missiles.

The languages of love.

People speak love in different languages. The focus here is not how those in romantic relationships express love like physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, and acts of service. The focus is majorly on how the world trades in the market of love. You may hate to admit this but love is transactional. Although you may not be expecting anything when you show someone love, an inner part of you would scream for joy when your love is reciprocated. I mean, who would not want to be loved in return? Here are some languages that love is spoken in:

1.     Sharing.

You would not consider it if you lacked love. Sharing is not out of the abundance of your possessions but from the depths of love. This is genuine love. We teach our children from a young age, we teach our children to be generous and consider the welfare of others. We want them not to hesitate to lend a pen when they have two or share their food with those who do not have one. We want them to grow up knowing about sharing as a language of love. It is not a show-off or a contest but genuine affection.

2.     Devotion to a good cause.

Love is selfless. Another language of love is devotion to a good cause for the benefit of many people. The strongest pillar of love is that it does not seek self-benefit. It comes out clearly when championing social projects. You devote yourself to a cause you believe in even if it may not benefit you. The best leaders worldwide speak this language. It makes them loveable by their citizens.

3.     Forgiveness.

It is difficult to forgive someone unconditionally. We always want assurance that they will not hurt us again or that they will compensate for their hurtful actions. The language of love through forgiveness is spoken by quite a handful of people. Most people are not ready for it. However, it serves society better. It is a sign of a stronger person. Those capable of forgiveness rise above the self-interest of seeking revenge. Their heart is big enough to embrace their enemies and start a new page with them. An abundance of forgiveness is a recipe for peace.

4.     Hand of help.

A strong person accepts that he needs help during his low moments. It does not make them any inferior. A stronger person is the one who gives help unconditionally whenever they can. It is a show of love beyond self-gain and not a superiority contest. Some people may not tell you directly that they love you. Instead, they will help you out where you are having difficulty even without you asking. This language of love is beautiful. Isn’t it?

You can effectively turn each of these languages of love into a weapon that will keep you safe. Here is how you can make this transformation:

1.     War on selfishness.

Selfishness from the leaders to the citizens is a recipe for civil strife. The language of love through sharing seeks to elevate the needs of others above your own. Societies that have plunged into chaos did not speak this language. Consider the reaction of people who realize that they have been sidelined in the distribution of resources. They will not go down without a fight. The only way to cure this inequality is to speak the language of love through sharing.

2.     Fighting bad manners.

The language of love through devotion to a good cause is a weapon to fight bad manners. With an insight of how the future looks like if everyone is left to do as they please, the best we can do is to stop it before it even starts. It works in the same way vaccination does. It is prevention against disease when and if done correctly. Take up this language of love as a weapon against known social ills.

3.     It heals injustices.

The thirst for revenge can only be quenched by speaking the language of love. It is an antidote for revenge. In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, an eye for an eye will leave the world with a lot of blind people. Love is the universal language everyone should embrace to heal injustice. Do not let hate win because it is very destructive. Countries that have had civil war as Rwanda have fully embraced it and it has worked for them.

4.     It fights poverty.

The world would be a better place if everyone were their brother’s or sister’s keeper. This is the mantra we should adopt – poverty is the enemy. Always look out for those in need because the universe shall reward you handsomely for it. The language of love through giving aid to the needy is the weapon to wipe out poverty.

You can know the winning side in war by identifying those who speak the language of love. They have total control of all the variables in war and shall secure victory for themselves.