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6 Tips from a Spiritual Family – To Create Stronger Bonds

I grew up in a spiritually strong family and I’ve realized that a large part of that had to do with my dad being very spiritual. And looking back at all those years growing up and the impact our family bond has had on my life, and that of my six other siblings, I realize how lucky I was to have a father like that. So, if you’re here reading this because you want to create a healthy relationship in your family, you must understand the importance of your role as a father or mother. 

In present-day society, the performative work culture has driven so many families apart. Busy workdays for the parents usually end up developing shaky family ties between them and the children. It must then be through delicate handling, building loving relationships, and a level of spirituality that you, too, can strengthen your family relationship. 

I watched my dad consciously apply the following tips to make our home a happy and contented one, and they may help you if you follow them religiously.

  1. We spent quality time together.

Despite how busy both of my parents were, they always found the time to spend time with my siblings and me. There was always one activity lined up and it made my childhood so much fun. My mom is an avid adventurer and she loves going into nature to recharge her soul and connect to the universe. In many ways, she imbibed this culture in all of us and taught us how to appreciate nature too. 

Family activities and vacations do not have to be so elaborate and expensive. You can spend well within your means and still have a great bonding time with your family. It’s all about the commitment you all have for each other. 

Not to mention that spending quality time together as a family is an ultimate way of being present in the moment, understanding each other’s dreams and fears, and working together to achieve those dreams. 

  1. We ate together. And prayed together

Whilst growing up, the one thing I always looked forward to was sharing meals with the rest of my family. It was such a pure and happy moment that I will always fondly remember. Till this day, whenever everyone of us comes together after a long time, we all still engage in the tradition of sharing of meal together. 

Right before we begin any meal, my dad nominates a volunteer to say a quick word of prayer and gratitude for the sustenance. This little act taught me gratitude in all areas of my life. I recognize the power of the divine and how fortunate I am to live this life that I have been given.


It is also a rule of the universe that when you show gratitude, you are attracting positive energy to grant you even more. This is because you recognize the power of spirituality and you’re channeling it to work for you effectively.

  1. We were involved with each other.

One of the things that drive many families apart is the singularity and individualistic premise of their thoughts. Family is blood ties and should be involved with each other. It is the smallest and most coherent unit of society and every charity should start from there.

My dad made us realize this early enough. He was always proactive in engaging us to share tasks, thereby strengthening the bond and tolerance we had for each other. During the holiday seasons, we gave one another gifts and shared memories. My mom used to take me and my siblings to the rooftop to watch and name the constellations. And during the occasional moments when we saw the shooting stars, we silently made a wish about family. 

When you spend meaningful time together with family, when you are healthily involved with each other, it is a support system of unconditional love and respect, unlike anything else you might have in relationships with other people.

  1. We practiced affirmations and expressions of love.

My family used to engage in round table discussions where we talked about literally every topic. It is in these moments that we share personal information about the things going on in our lives. And my mom and dad were always there to listen and offer us words of encouragement when we needed them.

They also knew when we needed to be told something quite firmly, to understand the importance of being accountable to our actions.

Compliments were a crucial thing in our household and everyone made it a point to always compliment the next person. It went a long way in boosting my self-esteem and confidence as I matured to face the rigors of life. 

Daily compliments, little gestures of love, and things like that are very important in strengthening family bonds and relationships.


Spending time together with your family is one of the greatest gifts the universe can give you. It is what society needs to heal. To deliver new generations of healthy children who are mentally resilient and understand the real values of life. If you can make family one of your top priorities, above anything else, then you can live a very content and happy life.

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Making Meaningful Spiritual Connections

What are they?

The term spiritual connection sounds foreign but is not entirely something new. It refers to a good relationship between your spirit and the universe. Matter of fact, this is the most important relationship you can nurture. Before I highlight the importance of spiritual connections, consider this relatable example.

A qualified electrician does wiring for your newly built house and sets up all the necessary connections – the switches to lights as well as the lights themselves, sockets, the main switch, the lampshade, and other electric outputs you know. However, even after all this work, you will still be in the dark until you are connected to the power grid.

Thereafter, you can enjoy the electricity in your house – cook, charge your devices, heat your bathing water in the shower, use your washing machine, and do so much more. It is the beginning of a new life.

The beginning of a new life.

Just as being connected to the power grid means you can finally light up your house, so does making meaningful spiritual connections mean. They light up your life and you get to enjoy exclusive benefits. Consider spiritual connections like essential service providers. Examples of essential service providers include:

  1.     Health workers.
  2.     Security officers.
  3.     Administration and coordination officers.
  4.     Financial institutions.
  5.     Distributors and retailers of petroleum and oil products.
  6.     Food dealers

Similarly, spiritual connections are important for the nourishment of our spirit without which we cannot survive. Here is a whole list of them and why you should have them in your life as soon as possible.

  1. A spiritual authority figure.

It could be your
Pastor, Minister, Reverend, Bishop, or Apostle for Christians. The Buddhists have the Lama, and the Hindus have the Swami as their religious teacher. Muslims too have their Imam. These leaders wield a lot of power than most people think. It does not mean that they can stop the sun or create a highway in the middle of the ocean.

To begin with, you listen to their teaching every worship day. More so, you have submitted to their authority and allowed them to teach you spiritual ways which you are naïve about. Your spiritual leader can help you fight spiritual battles for this is their principal duty.

Spiritual leaders are more knowledgeable than you are in spiritual matters and you should walk in their shadow for guidance and protection. Make a point of having one if you don’t have any because you will have no one to turn to in your darkest hour. If you already have one, be keen on following their teachings for the best results.

  1.  Destiny connectors.

They are men and women whom the universe has given the responsibility of connecting you with your destiny. Your destiny is intertwined with theirs and it is in your best interest that you connect with them as soon as you can.

Truth is that much time is wasted in between because you may have not already identified them. For one, you could either be deliberately blind to the obvious signs that they are the chosen ones. The universe owes nobody an explanation on anything. Somehow, nature conspires to bring these people into your life to connect you with your destiny.

Pay close attention to connecting with them and following their lead. On their account, you will meet great people, find aid in quotas you never dreamt of, and even visit places you have never imagined. Do you have any destiny connector in your life?

  1.  Parents and guardians.

How many people do you know who have a broken relationship with their parents or guardians? How does life treat them? Parents and guardians have the responsibility of holding your hand from when you are little to your adulthood. They introduce you to the world, provide for your needs, and protect you from harm.

They have a weightier responsibility for you and they are held accountable for it. Your spirit knows them as the primary caregiver and this cannot be simply wished away. The spiritual connection you have with them even in your adulthood life tells a lot about the type of person you are.

Do not despise them even if they are lowly people. You could not have come into being were it not for them. The universe respects them for this reason. Connect with them and they shall speak a blessing in your life. Their blessings to you for doing them good shall defend you in your dark days. In all fairness, nature shall spare you its wrath for neglecting them.

  1.  Mentors and teachers.

This pair is very important in your life. Every ambitious person does not lack both of them. They are important because they hold your hand throughout even when things get tough. Mentors are the people you look up to with the hope of one day becoming like them while teachers guide you in following your dream.

Establishing a spiritual connection with them will make you a part of them and you can do so much more compared to being alone. You cannot underestimate the influence a mentor has on a mentee. This makes it important to connect with the right one because you will eventually manifest the right thing.

You can buy your mentor and/or teacher a gift as a token of appreciation. It shows that you still remember them and value them for their role in your life.

  1.  Advisors.

The decision on whether or not to act on a piece of advice is yours. No one will question you about it and you will bear the costs for the same. The roles of mentors and teachers are slightly different from that of advisors.

Advisors are exclusively there to tell you the right thing to do. They point out the right and wrong in what you have learned from your teachers.

Please connect with these people if you want to make good use of their advice. A spiritual connection binds you more than a dry commitment does.

The importance of spiritual connections cannot be underestimated. You get to score a point in your spirituality and this win is manifested in your daily life. Hey there, what meaningful connections have you made so far? 

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Are You Spiritually Gifted?

A spiritually gifted individual is not the one who can read your mind or predict the future, but he/she is the one who knows what to say when your world is falling apart, in dismay. 

Look around, the people you meet, the old aunt who can predict the weather better than the weather telecast, your mum who knows you are feeling low just by looking at your face, your friend who can sense your sadness behind your fake smile. Life is filled with spiritually gifted individuals.

So what makes them spiritually gifted or different from others of their age or with similar qualities?

You are wise not by age but with experience

You have an abundance of knowledge which is authentic and genuine. People would often tell you things like, “OMG, you are so knowledgeable for your age” or “Oh damn, how did you know I was going through that?

It’s because you have made mental notes as to what each chapter of your life is trying to teach you. Life is indeed a book, and every event or situation you are presented with, either happy or sad, is a chapter of this book. You have made peace with the fact that some chapters are bound to make you fall in love with the way the story proceeded, some are bound to make you cry, some make it impossible for you to proceed to the next chapter. But you have the courage to move on from these chapters of your life as you also prepare yourself to be prepared for the next upcoming ones. 

You notice things others don’t bother looking at

There are aspects of people that you can predict or understand in an instance, which others would not even have noticed. Though it’s termed as intuition, not everyone around you has made use of this power, not yet. Everyone can be intuitive, if they try, but not everyone is. 

The difference lies in the presence of mind and being really in touch with all of your senses. It is trusting the emotional energy that they ooze that, which you are able to soak in. And understand whether they are worth your time and effort or not. 

You have a peculiar way with people

Spiritually gifted individuals often understand what the other person “feels” like, because of this they make excellent guides or mentors for people. They are true empaths. They have not only heard your entire story, but have also imagined how they would feel if they were facing the same issue as yours. Thus they are able to comfort you, provide you with the most comforting vibe you would have ever met. They make people around them feel at ease and have a protective and nurturing aura.

A word of caution:  An empath also attracts people who are still healing or some who have not yet resolved any of their karmic lessons. Being surrounded by such individuals would definitely drain the gifted individual who has nothing but unconditional positive regard and acceptance for the person. Thus if you are a gifted individual try to keep a distance from emotionally demanding people.

You can live a life filled with ambiguity

A spiritually gifted person is mindful. He knows that every event that happens in his life is meant to teach him something valuable. He does not crib or whine when things do not go his way, he knows that he does not have any control over external events out of his control. What he can do instead is, accept reality and make the best with what he has, not what he had or what he lost.

Ambiguity is something we truly loathe. This is because when something is uncertain,  one is bound to engage in overthinking, thinking of the worst outcome possible. It also triggers emotions such as anxiety, confusion, etc. Thus people usually try their best to be in control of everything in their life. But can that be possible ever? Nope.

Thus this leads to them trying to go against the rule of the universe. Universe thrives on the principle of ambiguity. This is because it is your responsibility to mold yourself against the forces of the universe and not the other way around. Thus a spiritually gifted person is likely to prepare herself in face of uncertainty and try to use strategies she learned from her previous encounters. 

You are always on a lookout for new information

As a spiritually gifted individual, it is highly likely that you have an insatiable thirst for knowledge which seems to be exhausting to some but adventurous for you. You are highly creative in the sense that you know that with each new experience in life you are likely to gain some new wisdom. 

Even though you met it is as mundane as washing vessels. It is quite boring and monotonous for some, but for you, you can sense that the black stains on the vessels, the ones that have been accumulated since many months, is similar to the bad karma we as humans accumulate in our lifetime. Both are very hard to erase, but if you don’t cleanse them, they are bound to either grow or hamper the vessel.

The reason behind this is quite simple one. You just tend to indulge yourself wholly in any activity that you take part in. As you engage in it, you are mindful about how it makes you feel, what are your thoughts and how are your other senses also reacting towards it. But hey, this super power has a downfall, you are likely to never ever feel content with what you have, for you are always on a lookout for something more. Practice gratitude, it will help you feel at ease.

To sum it up, for an individual to be spiritually  gifted, you need no super power or serums, you just need some patience, some empathy, a dashful mindfulness and a lot of love and acceptance of your own strengths and weaknesses. 

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