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The Power of Energy Exchange

The 48 laws of power.

Let us draw reference from Robert Greene’s famous book The 48 laws of power. Law 10 states Avoid the Unhappy and the Unlucky. There is a proven pattern observed in people who associate with negative energy. They are most likely to be absorbed into the dark pit by associating with negativity. Consider the example of two people pulling each other. One is standing on a table and the other is standing on the ground. Who between the two will pull the other to the level he/she is in?

Of course, the one standing on a lower ground can pull the one standing on a table easily. This example speaks volumes regarding the power of energy exchange. We are in a state of constant giving and taking with the universe. We can either be on the winning or losing side depending on how we relate with the universe. There are a few ground rules to observe. Here is the ultimate guide from the universe into the power of energy exchange:



1. Your choice of a life partner.

Your life partner could be the spring to your success or the missile to destroy you. They are an important part of the connection between the universe and you. The energy exchange between you two cannot be ignored. For most people (at least as is supposed to be), their spouse is their best friend and closest confidant. Considering this as the ideal situation, what energy do you draw from them? If they have a negative vibe, they will transmit the same to you. Such energy exchange is very unhealthy and the more reason why you should make this choice cautiously. There is a reason they are called soulmates. You create an everlasting soul tie with them (unless broken by other means).

A soulmate is like a pipe connection. What happens when the pipe is dipped in dirty water and you suck the other end? You will drink dirty water. Ew! How disgusting! A bad connection like this is also replicated with the partner you get intimate with. Intimacy is sacred and that is why it is reserved for married people – those in a long-term life commitment. When you sleep around with anyone, you risk contaminating your spirit with a bad vibe. This will be replicated in the things you do.

2. Your beliefs and philosophy in life.

We all have our beliefs in life. It should not necessarily be religion. It can be a life principle or philosophy that you hold dear. A belief is a strong conviction in something. It informs very many things that you do. You should be able to determine one thing easily – what do you stand to gain or lose with the beliefs and/or philosophy that you hold? The answer to this question explains what kind of energy exchange happens between you two.

There are different theories about the universe and creation. Without going into details, they can either set you on a path of greatness or radicalize you to destruction. Consider these two kinds of people – one believes that God will help their business grow and another who puts actual effort towards business growth. Who between them shall succeed? Positive energy is inherited from the universe by the beliefs you hold. You should not believe in just anything. Ask yourself hard questions before subscribing to it. The issue of beliefs should not be taken lightly. Its misuse will make you end up disconnecting from the destiny that the universe had put on your path.

3. Your mind’s engagement.

The brain is very important in facilitating energy exchange. Your thoughts are the beginning of your glory or walk to shame.

“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” – Lao Tzu.

As you can see, the mind is the genesis of the whole process of energy exchange with the universe. Should you not be careful, then your thoughts will manifest into your worst reality. Think carefully about what you feed your mind – the books you read, the things you watch online, and what you train your mind to learn. You should feed your mind positive energy to conceive and manifest the same. Your mind cannot exist in a vacuum, there must always be something constantly on it. It better be what you want to reap. 



4. Your environment.

Your environment is something you would want to watch out for if you want to conceive positive energy. A lot of things are determined by it. No wonder it is advisable to ensure kids grow up in a healthy environment. The mystery in an environment is deep. Look at the demography of the city you live in. Like most cities, it is probably naturally segmented into social classes. There is a place where the rich live – posh driving lanes, good cars, and houses. There is also a place for those at the bottom of the pyramid – narrow paths (a car can hardly pass. Anyway, who owns one?) and congested housing.

The rich live among the rich and the poor among themselves. A stranger in a foreign neighborhood is easily recognizable because they do not identify with the vibe of the place they are visiting. This is how powerful your environment is. When you live in a place of negativity, it will gradually become part of you. You want to change your energy, consider a change of environment.

5. Your speech.

The universe is a funny space. What you say jokingly can manifest in your life. This is why you have to think twice before speaking any idle words. When your speech has negative energy constantly, the same will be repeated to you. This energy exchange is true if your speech is positive. Moreover, do not entertain negative talk from other people because they are creating negativity in your space.

The talks you listen to can fill your mind and be the source of a bad vibe. Nothing is negligible. Learn to take words seriously or you will learn it the hard way when negativity infiltrates your world.

The power of energy exchange is a real issue. These five points are the major gates to it. You should guard them jealously to protect your space.

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How to Let Go of Destructive Habits (using spiritual tools)

As I sat to type this blog post yesterday, my youngest one came up to me, poked her fingers upon my trousers to understand why I was not attending her tea party.

She had prepared tea for me and was waiting for me in her kitchen. Plastic cups, water instead of tea, a giant cookie that she gobbled on as she stared at me. A small chair that didn’t fit my weight, I sat on the floor, gazing at her talking to me about how difficult it is to let go of this bad habit.

What bad habits do you have? I asked in amusement.

Oh, you know daddy…. I am a clumsy eater…I do not like to share my cookie… not even with you!” crumbs of cookies fell from the sides of her mouth as she then giggled at herself and then told me to get back to work.


While my daughter was being quite introspective about her bad habits, I realized that not all of us are that mindful or even aware of the destructive habits we might be engaging in and how these habits have now become our own worst enemies.

So what are these Destructive habits and how does one cultivate these?

It’s simple. Destructive habits are any set of routines that you follow almost automatically. An example of these includes getting angry and snapping immediately after someone else disagrees with you, feeling depressed or anxious when things do not go your way, and blaming it all on yourself.

How exactly does one cultivate these destructive habits? 

Imagine you are a kid who has just learned to voice your words out, you are likely to mimic or repeat words of your immediate family members. Now I do not mean that your destructive habits are solely adapted or learned through early childhood experiences, but they do play a vital role in aiding them for the future.

Once you have learned or rather observed that by shouting or getting angry at another person, you can get away with anything, you are likely to continue that behavior, irrespective of its consequences. So even as an adult, you are likely to first use the automatic habitual way of acting rather than be aware that it might not be the best behavior to engage in. So you can cultivate destructive habits, from anywhere, school., friends, college, peers, or just yourself. 

One interesting fact about these destructive habits is that once you find that there is a certain degree of comfort that is associated with them, you are always going to engage in them. I call them COPING MECHANISM. Every time my colleague feels anxious about presenting in front of a large audience or people, she has to light a cigarette only then will her presentations go amazingly well. Now, this has become so ingrained in her that she cannot go without a cigarette before every presentation.

So there have to be some repercussions of these destructive habits right?

Engaging in any activity that is meant to harm you physically, mentally, or spiritually qualifies as being a destructive habit. It might feel like it gives you a kick or a boost of adrenaline or makes you look cool in front of others, but is it worth it? 

The repercussions are either external or internal. External pain could be in the form of physical injury to pain or wounds. But the most severe damage that would be felt would be an internal one. They could also cause an imbalance in your chakras, for example, if you engage in overthinking, fail to stop your racing thoughts every time you are faced with an uncertain situation, you are likely to block your crown chakra and experience feelings of confusion.

So how does one let go of their Destructive habits?

Define your motive. 

I read this quote somewhere…Bad habits are spiraling slides that drag you round and round down the narrowing end of a cone that eventually ends up in a dark, tight, confining spot. So the first thing that you can do to let go of your destructive habits is to define your motive for engaging in the other habit. Decide what you truly wish to gain by engaging in this particular habit. Is it a sense of calm? Relaxation, achievement? 

You cannot engage or do something without knowing the “WHY” 

Journal it down :

I have found this to be one of the best techniques to begin with, any new spiritual or mental journey, writing. The reason why writing will help you in setting yourself free from your destructive habits is that when you write you are truly aware. You are directing your entire concentration upon solely the one thing that you are going to do, ie, define which new habits are you going to engage in now?

Here’s an exercise I would like you to try.

My Destructive Habit




Advantage of engaging in it




Disadvantage of engaging in it(Cons)



My new healthy habits :





You can always write the feelings associated with the pre destructive habit phase and post that once you are engaging in the healthier ones.

  • Meditation:

Since a lot of you would already be familiar with the usual way of meditation for the use of change or to start a new spiritual journey, I thought this time I would introduce you to a newer version of it. This one just requires you to imagine yourself already engaging in the newer evolved habit.

For example, let’s say you wish to get rid of this bad habit of shouting at your subordinate. The destructive habit you cultivated was that you shouted at him in front of others and also made him look like a fool. Now every time you see him, you remember his mistake and wish to engage in the same destructive habit.

Here, I would ask you to either lie down in the Savasana pose or simply sit back in a comfortable position, close your eyes. Now imagine the same subordinate is coming in front of you. Yes, you are bound to feel angry, irritated, frustrated. Let those thoughts associated with snapping, bursting out, go. 

Tell him assertively what you would like him to do, instead of shaming him, belittling him, or targeting him. Be as assertive as possible. Maybe you can do better next time…just ask me if you ever need any help would work too. Next, slowly imagine him feeling a bit better too as well as yourself. 

Now gradually open your eyes. You have successfully cultivated a new healthier habit. YAY!

  • Crystals and affirmations : 

Many crystals are available in the market that work upon the exact chakral habit you wish to evolve from. For example, amethyst would be beneficial if you wish to let go of the destructive habit of overthinking or getting anxious. I use it too. Always make sure you have washed or sun-bathed your crystal before you use it. I often try to pair with my affirmation, eg, I set myself free of these racing thoughts, I welcome mental peace. I am open to receiving new positive vibrations from the universe. 

Hopefully, these tricks should help you to let go of the destructive habits and adapt to newer healthier ones! 

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Attract the Right Kind of Love, Using these Manifestations

The right kind of love is empowering. It is knowing that you love someone more than you even care for yourself. It is giving them the power over your heart and mind, giving them your happiness when they feel sad. 

The right kind of love won’t make you forget your worries or your darkness, it will rather stay by your side, help you fight this darkness, and hug you tightly on the days you feel like breaking apart. 

The right kind of love will lend its hand out when you are drowning yourself in the same spiral loop, it will wait for you to fight those demons of the past back so that together you shall continue the journey that you both are meant to live. 

So how does one attract the right kind of love?

Start simple, ask yourself the right questions:

  • What exactly are you looking forward to from this person? 
  • Is it sexual satisfaction? Emotional intimacy? A mixture of both?
  • Do you wish for a partner who satisfies you or tags along with you for some time, maybe months or years? Or are you someone who is looking for a long-term mating partner? 
  • How would you define love? 

The kind of partner or love that you wish to have in your life, is the one you can’t imagine your life without. This is someone with whom you want to share your life’s shitty or most trivial details or the most important or gruesome tragedies of your life. You do not hold yourself back. Imagine living a dream, wherein you are running freely and oh so swift you are almost flying, that is exactly the kind of feeling the right one should make you feel. Expressing your daily life’s mundane details should also feel like something that they are looking forward to hearing. It’s the intent, always remember.

Believe it exists: 

Live your life the same way you would have lived if you would have had your right one alongside you. Go around being that happy, carefree, cheerful version of yourself, it doesn’t matter right now whether they are with you or not. What matters is that you are believing in this pure and completely magical piece of love that exists somewhere around the corner of this world. 

It might not be with you at the present moment, but they too could be thinking of someone like you, hoping to meet the right one, but till then, they are living their present life and so should you.

Get creative! 

Go ahead and daydream, write a letter, watch movies, plays, listen to similar songs, do anything or everything that makes you feel a bit closer to your right one. 

It could even be sketching your right one. 

Imagine the idea of how you would like to spend time with them?

How would you first meet? You could be as specific as you want, for why not, it is your love, go around!

Are you ready for the change?

Finding the right one is no icing on the cake. It is more than happy moments, kisses, and hugs. It is more than just spending your life in those reels of the infamous Instagram reels. To attract the right kind of love you should be ready to undergo tremendous amounts of change. Yes, you read that right, there is change, a lot of it. 

There could be a possibility that you would have to change the way you are. Maybe you are an overthinker, ultra anxious, indulged in all sorts of unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with your anxiety and stress. Realize that the type of vibration you ooze out is exactly the one you will attract out. Thus if you are distrustful, envious, or have negative mixed feelings, you are likely going to attract the same kind of person and maybe not the “right” one. 

Work on your vices thus. What are some of your shortcomings? Work on those, talk to a friend, ask them an honest opinion, and work on them. It is not that difficult. But it would be hell if you are stuck with a person who is quite toxic or not as understanding as you are.

Indulge in self-care: 

I have often observed that every time a lot of us are on the lookout for the right kind of love, they feel that this one person is going to come in and love their life and make them happy, even though they do not know what their happiness means? So what does your happiness look like? Can you imagine sharing it with the right one too?

For example, I love gazing at the sea waves, late in the evening or just sitting there alone, at peace, calling it luck or chance, but my significant other enjoys it too. So do not try to fit into others’ perception of happiness, see whether they would fit into yours or not.

That’s why practicing self-care is quintessential. Learn to make yourself happy, learn to fight your own battles, see how you are evolving every day, you are more than enough for yourself. The right one will be a bonus to your life which will make your better life even more meaningful and cheerful. He won’t be able to change it just because you feel he is the right one. 

Be patient and have faith.

Nothing great ever comes to anyone who is impulsive and does not wait for their appropriate turn to let things unfold in their life. The other essential aspect that would be required would be to have faith. Have faith that whatever is meant for you will come to you naturally, at its own pace. Have faith in your capabilities, in your one strengths, be confident in your skin, be proud of your vibrant aura. You will surely find the best one.

Thus, finding the right one might not be as difficult as it seems to be, but hey, it requires some hard work and some commitment to work towards the journey. These are the following manifestations that you could use to attract the right one for you.

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10 Ways to Understand your Partner

A gift from above.

There are many blessings from the universe but the greatest one is your partner. Do not worry if you have none at the moment because that blessing is in the offing. Being single is a time to discover yourself but it gets easier when you are paired up with somebody for a lifetime – your partner. Nature brings them into your life in due time, never too late nor too early. However, we have a rough time before we adjust to them. We tend to push our partners away when we could use their help. Some people even say hurtful words towards them when they did not mean it. These ten tips will help you understand your partner better:

  1.     Read their moods.

Your partner is human just like you. They have their high and low moments. You need to read between the lines. Understand their reasons before you blame them for not doing something right. It is a common assumption that females are the moody ones in a relationship. This is not entirely true. Male partners can be moody too. They may not want to talk about it, act out of self-entitlement, and vent all of this to their partners. Refrain from arguing if this happens. You can discuss what happened when they are in better moods.

  1.     Learn their habits and lifestyle.

The beauty of nature is diversification. We all are different from each other – even our partners whom we suppose are most compatible with us. Do not assume that your partner will love something because you love it. Yes, they may but there is a good chance they may also not like it. Before you impose anything on them, learn their habits and lifestyle. This is the whole essence of dating. Study your partner’s habits and you will realize that the universe’s choice for your life partner is someone with whom you share a lot. Embrace this choice and you will have zero regrets in the future. understanding your partner

  1.     Learn their beliefs and philosophy.

“What belief and/or philosophy does your partner hold?” You should be able to comfortably answer this question. It gets better when both of you stand on common ground. Together you can manifest your desires and pray for blessings from the universe. Anyway, two heads are better than one. Your partner is someone you should be able to confide your worst fears in. They are placed in your life to fulfill your manifestation journey. As such, you should completely learn their beliefs and philosophy. You will make a good couple when you agree on this phase.

  1.     Accommodate their ambitions.

The ambitions of your partner automatically form part of you. Find space to accommodate their ambitions and work together to achieve them. When you both intertwine your ambitions, the universe blesses your union with success. The achievement of either of your dreams will make both of you happy. You can count your blessings together as a couple and nothing shall be too difficult for you to overcome. Accommodating your partner’s ambitions will create a stronger soul connection. It is what we all want with our partners. Isn’t it?

  1.     Find space in their destiny.

The universe has different destinies for all of us, even those in relationships. If you want to understand your partner better, create your space in their destiny. Everything they do is towards taking care of their destiny. You effectively make them take care of you too as part of it. They will take care not to hurt you or shut you out of their lives because you are already a firm part of it. The relationship grows stronger when both partners create space in each other’s destiny.

  1.     Check your horoscopes.

Have you taken the time to check your partner’s horoscope? If not, make a point of doing so. Horoscopes are a forecast into the future based on the position of the stars and planets at the time of their birth. It is a proven way of determining someone’s character. This is something you need if you want to understand your partner. You will get to know their behavior beforehand and get ready to handle them. astrology | horoscope


    Understand their position in your life.

Sometimes your relationship may not work because you did not read the handwriting on the wall. The universe brings different people our way, each of them ordained with a purpose. Not everyone is destined to become your partner. Forcing them to become one will end up hurting both of you. Some people are simply destiny connectors. They have come into our lives to shine a light on our way at an appointed time and then go away. No hard feelings. Understand the role of your partner in your life and listen keenly to what the universe is trying to tell you.

  1.     Penetrate their mind and emotions.

Go beyond the physical when relating with your partner. Get to know what they think and their opinions over a range of issues. This will make you understand them better and avoid unnecessary conflict between you. You should be able to predict their reaction to an issue at any given point. You are now their partner anyway, not some random stranger.

  1.     Mirror strategy.

How do you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror? It feels good to see an image of yourself. Similarly, your partner needs to see themselves in you. You can understand them better when you mirror their actions. They will have nothing to hide from you because you are their mirror and who does not like to watch themselves anyway? This strategy works mostly when you want to win someone’s trust.

  1. Help, don’t criticize.

Your partner needs to feel comfortable around you. Help them to become better in their strengths if you want to understand them better. Their success is equally yours. Your partner will open to you more when they are convinced that your intentions are genuine. This is a safe space to understand them better and register your help. understanding your partner

Never mistreat your partner because you will be in contempt of nature’s benevolence towards you. These ten ways will help you understand them better.

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The Powerful Weapon of Love

Most people think of love as many things but not as a weapon. Here is an eye-opener – love is a weapon. A deadly one to conquer and win. It is what your nemesis will not see coming their way. However, one thing is guaranteed – the weapon of love will make you victorious.

Here is an interesting strategy used by militaries worldwide when in war. They have a hard time when they invade a territory and their enemies have blended with the locals. They cannot launch blanket attacks because innocent civilians will be hurt. They use acts of love to smoke them out. The men and women in uniform bring humanitarian aid to these war-torn places. It should be something that the locals are having an extreme shortage of, for example, food, water, or medical aid. What love! But it is a weapon camouflaged in acts of love. Slowly by slowly, they win over the trust of the locals who silently trade in the location, identity, or both of the enemy that lives within them. The fear innocent civilians have of the soldiers is replaced by trust. They develop faith in them that they are going to keep them safe. Without these acts of love, soldiers cannot easily win the battle against the enemy. Love turns out to be a powerful weapon almost equivalent to as deadly as missiles.

The languages of love.

People speak love in different languages. The focus here is not how those in romantic relationships express love like physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, and acts of service. The focus is majorly on how the world trades in the market of love. You may hate to admit this but love is transactional. Although you may not be expecting anything when you show someone love, an inner part of you would scream for joy when your love is reciprocated. I mean, who would not want to be loved in return? Here are some languages that love is spoken in:

  1.     Sharing.

You would not consider it if you lacked love. Sharing is not out of the abundance of your possessions but from the depths of love. This is genuine love. We teach our children from a young age, we teach our children to be generous and consider the welfare of others. We want them not to hesitate to lend a pen when they have two or share their food with those who do not have one. We want them to grow up knowing about sharing as a language of love. It is not a show-off or a contest but genuine affection.

  1.     Devotion to a good cause.

Love is selfless. Another language of love is devotion to a good cause for the benefit of many people. The strongest pillar of love is that it does not seek self-benefit. It comes out clearly when championing social projects. You devote yourself to a cause you believe in even if it may not benefit you. The best leaders worldwide speak this language. It makes them loveable by their citizens.

  1.     Forgiveness.

It is difficult to forgive someone unconditionally. We always want assurance that they will not hurt us again or that they will compensate for their hurtful actions. The language of love through forgiveness is spoken by quite a handful of people. Most people are not ready for it. However, it serves society better. It is a sign of a stronger person. Those capable of forgiveness rise above the self-interest of seeking revenge. Their heart is big enough to embrace their enemies and start a new page with them. An abundance of forgiveness is a recipe for peace. forgiveness

  1.     Hand of help.

A strong person accepts that he needs help during his low moments. It does not make them any inferior. A stronger person is the one who gives help unconditionally whenever they can. It is a show of love beyond self-gain and not a superiority contest. Some people may not tell you directly that they love you. Instead, they will help you out where you are having difficulty even without you asking. This language of love is beautiful. Isn’t it?

You can effectively turn each of these languages of love into a weapon that will keep you safe. Here is how you can make this transformation:

  1.     War on selfishness.

Selfishness from the leaders to the citizens is a recipe for civil strife. The language of love through sharing seeks to elevate the needs of others above your own. Societies that have plunged into chaos did not speak this language. Consider the reaction of people who realize that they have been sidelined in the distribution of resources. They will not go down without a fight. The only way to cure this inequality is to speak the language of love through sharing.

  1.     Fighting bad manners.

The language of love through devotion to a good cause is a weapon to fight bad manners. With an insight of how the future looks like if everyone is left to do as they please, the best we can do is to stop it before it even starts. It works in the same way vaccination does. It is prevention against disease when and if done correctly. Take up this language of love as a weapon against known social ills.

  1.     It heals injustices.

The thirst for revenge can only be quenched by speaking the language of love. It is an antidote for revenge. In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, an eye for an eye will leave the world with a lot of blind people. Love is the universal language everyone should embrace to heal injustice. Do not let hate win because it is very destructive. Countries that have had civil war as Rwanda have fully embraced it and it has worked for them.

  1.     It fights poverty.

The world would be a better place if everyone were their brother’s or sister’s keeper. This is the mantra we should adopt – poverty is the enemy. Always look out for those in need because the universe shall reward you handsomely for it. The language of love through giving aid to the needy is the weapon to wipe out poverty.

You can know the winning side in war by identifying those who speak the language of love. They have total control of all the variables in war and shall secure victory for themselves. 

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Understanding the Sign Language of the Universe

Everything is based on good communication. When you get it right, 99% of your problems are solved. Interpersonal relationships, good governance, and efficient teamwork stand on the tall shoulders of good communication, especially from the universe. The universe speaks one language – the sign language. It should also be your primary language if you want to succeed in establishing good relations.

One message can be passed across in many ways but received differently by people. The choice of words, the emphasis on means of communication, and its timeliness can drive your message home. The language of the universe – the sign language – delivers a message weightier than every other language. It is probably why it is the language of choice by the universe. It is expressed in two major ways: acceptance and rejection.

  1. Favor.

When you gain favor from the universe, you notice wide acceptance wherever you go. You stop struggling and all of a sudden people offer themselves to support your cause. You receive an email about your appointment to a new job, your business proposal sails through after stiff competition, and many projects, in general, get unstuck. This is proof enough that the universe has acknowledged your prayers and they are being fulfilled. Make the best out of it when such favor locates you.

  1. Rejection.

It will be an open secret when you experience rejection, especially from the universe. For a moment, everything will seem to work against you. All your efforts will be frustrated and you may give up if you are weak-hearted. rejection

Rejection is communication that you should accord your project or yourself the seriousness it deserves. Instead of fighting it, align your ambitions with how the universe directs you. What is your response to either of these communications? Unlearn any misguided opinions you may have on how the universe communicates.

The dangers of favor.

  1.       False sense of entitlement.

Any signs of acceptance may give you a false sense of entitlement. You may become bossy when you see people submitting to your cause. Their support to you does not mean you are the best. It is just your time to shine. Gracefully accept your place when the universe gives your ambitions a nod. In all its fairness, your turn has come to shine, and do not be entitled to it. Accept it with uttermost humility.

  1.     Overjoy can ruin your chances.

People can do a lot of crazy things in the heat of the moment. The joy of finally having a breakthrough after much struggle cannot be hidden. Be warned about how you will react to good news especially if it has not been forthcoming after a long time. You may be arrogant to the people who have stood with you because you think you will no longer need their support. The same people will preside over your downfall and nobody will be sorry for you.

  1.     Contentment.

It is dangerous to be content after hitting your targets courtesy of the universe’s hand in your favor. Remember that your success this time around is not because of your competence but the universe’s favor. Do not fall back or reduce your efforts in what you were doing. When your time of favor elapses, you will not catch up with the rest. There is a tendency of being comfortable in your success. This is what favor from the universe offers. Do not take up this offer no matter how tempting it may be.

The opportunities of rejection.

  1.       A second chance.

Nobody wants rejection. But there is a silver lining to it. It is a platform for a second chance. You can amend and improve on the plan that got you rejected. It will be irresistible the next time you present it to the same audience that initially rejected it. You retreat to a moment of self-reflection when rejected. If you still have the conviction of your plans, you can make a second stab and be successful after taking important lessons.  

  1.     A change of mind.

Rejection can turn out to be a blessing. Sometimes your plans are rejected because it is not the best for you at the moment. The universe is telling you that you need to relook into what you have. You could be on the wrong platform. If you planned to sail through as they were, you could not realize your full potential. The best favor that the universe can gift you at that time is rejection. Do not be bitter about it. Take it gracefully and appreciate divergent opinions. You might find a better idea altogether. happiness

  1.     An eye-opener.

Rejection is also an eye-opener. It is like a wake-up call that is highly unwelcome to most people. Do not hate yourself when rejected. You just have to turn to the other side that you have been blind to all along. Your breakthrough could be waiting for you. Consider opinions that you were initially reserved too. The universe could be guiding you to it.

Moving forward…

You need to calculate your next steps wisely after understanding the sign language of the universe broadly expressed through favor or rejection. Either way that you read the handwriting on the wall, do not take it as the final word. You can manage to turn things in your favor ONLY by obeying the laws of nature. The first rule of thumb is the law of attraction. This is a whole chapter that you need to look into.

Take a mental note about sign language from the universe – your position is NEVER guaranteed. It is a world of stiff competition and you should get out of your comfort zone. When the universe gives you a signal of acceptance, embrace it and seek to lengthen your stay there. When you are rejected, work towards entering the good books of the universe. Every position is earned. Do good and pursue your purpose. You will be rewarded handsomely for it. Understanding the sign language of the universe is one step closer to fulfilling your destiny.  

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Why you need blind faith (and how to get it)

The definition of faith may not be very clear. Much has been said about what faith is but living it remains a challenge many people are yet to overcome. Faith is unlimited trust in someone or something. It is a strong belief that you are ready to defend and contribute your time and resources towards it.

Faith has no boundaries. It is as deep as the pacific and wide as the heavens. You can do unimaginable things for faith’s sake. It remains the best choice you make in your eyes even when everyone around you has their doubts. Does faith have eyes? Can it see the reality of the matter or how desperately you believe in a cause? Well, faith has eyes and ears. It is living if you practice it correctly (there are rules of practice). However, some limitations block the manifestation of faith in your life. Some of these limitations are:

      Your sight.

The gift of sight is a blessing but it is the greatest obstacle of faith. The eyes of faith do not require physical vision. They are within you and can see beyond physical things. Such is the weight of faith. It requires you to be ‘blind’. Who does not love sight? We use it to watch our favorite shows, play games, behold the beauty of the universe, visualize how things look like, and many more. By the same sight, we see obstacles in our way. This impossible mentality brought by sight is the number one enemy of faith. It is a great limitation of believing that things will work out fine because what we see at the moment is the difficulty ahead.

    Your mind.

Your mind conceives a lot of things. It may work for faith or against it. Sadly, it mostly works against it because of sight as seen earlier on. Your mind is an asset that continually thinks about what is possible as told by all body senses. It automatically rejects dreams that do not conform to the standards it has set (unless trained otherwise). No wonder, most people of faith are looked down upon by the ‘rational’ ones. Faith can never make sense where the mind does not embrace it. The two can never co-exist harmoniously if the mind is unprepared.

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    Your doubts.

It is normal to doubt illogical theories and dreams. But when it goes overboard, faith stops working. It has eyes and ears to recognize your doubts. It will never work for you because you are constantly opposing that it will work. You do not have to agree right away but allow faith some benefit of the doubt that it can work. You can have your doubts but it gets worse when other people contribute to them. It is like they are outing a rubber stamp in your mind that what faith is trying to make happen shall not succeed.

Overcoming these limitations requires that you have blind faith. The kind of faith that will be adamant on the possibility that it will work. Here is how you can develop blind faith:

      Use vision instead of sight.

Vision is for the long term while sight is short term. The visually impaired may lack sight but they can have vision. Something is seriously wrong when you do not have a vision of where you are heading. Your vision is what a compass is to a sea sailor. It gives direction when they are in the middle of the ocean. A sharp vision will see the prize at the end of the race and not the obstacles on the way.

    Focus on the bigger picture.

Your mind will tell you about here and now because it is what you can see at the moment. To develop blind faith, you need to focus on the end product. Look at how beautiful the end will be and let this inspire you to outgrow the thoughts of your mind. Not all thoughts are bad. It is just that some may mislead you to think about the possibilities at the moment and not the wonders that blind faith can bring into your life. Your vision is uninterrupted when you focus on the bigger picture. It is what fertilizer is to crops on the farm – constantly providing nutrients for growth. Likewise, the bigger picture feeds your faith.

    Be encouraged.

You need to listen to the voice of reason when you are in despair. This will build your faith more. Do not listen to those who are out there to discourage you and show you that it is not possible. They will sink even the little hope that was turning to faith. Be careful with whom you give attention. They are the ultimate faith builders or breakers.

A lot of power lies in blind faith. It will help you overcome a million hurdles your way. These are some of its benefits:

You manifest the law of attraction.

The law of attraction works on the principle of faith. You only attract what you think, speak, or feel. They are major players in manifesting your faith. Blind faith is necessary because it helps you develop the right attitude in manifesting the law of attraction.

You rise above challenges.

Challenges are part of the growing process. It is difficult to grow through them without faith – blind faith to be specific. Your focus shifts from the prevailing challenges to the prize at the end of the race. It is a powerful driving force that is unstoppable by challenges of any nature.

It clears any doubt you may have.

Faith and doubts can never mix. When you finally develop blind faith, it means that you have overcome all forms of doubts. You are empowered to try new things that will contribute to the success of your vision.

It empowers you to see only the positive side.

Positivity is impossible without faith. The list of benefits of positivity is endless. The major one is that it is the best gift for yourself. When you bag faith in your bucket list, you have a lot more rewards too.

It is high time you appreciated blind faith more and follow this guide to work towards achieving it. It will unlock the full potential of your vision. 

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Nature’s Way of Healing your Hurt

Is your heart hurt?

The genesis of hurt is a lengthy story. Everyone has their own version. Some are more emotional than others and they have left the hurt very bitter. Blames are thrown right, left, and center with the promise of revisiting the hurt in the name of revenge.

Well, nature has different news for you. She will only ‘make you whole again’ if you abide by her rules. First, you have to understand the origin of your hurt. Was your heart truly hurt or did you hurt yourself? Most people will definitely be defensive and claim that it was not their fault. 

Emotionally detach yourself from your hurt. This is a big win. Thereafter, take a step back and evaluate what really hurt you.

Causes of hurt.

  1. Rejection.

Who would not be hurt by rejection? Almost everyone would, except the emotionally numb ones. Rejection could damage your self-esteem and you start questioning what it is that you lack.

Imagine your people refusing to be associated with you. They treat you as an outcast and even treat strangers better than you. Ouch! You may not recover from it soon. Except only if you allow nature to heal you completely.

Do not take rejection so personally. Other people’s opinions about you will remain just that – opinions. Let it not affect you because it is not the truth. You know better. Can you imagine arguing with someone else that what you are holding is a cup, yet they insist it is a spoon?

Their perception of what you are holding to be a spoon will not change the reality that it is a cup. This is how you should view rejection. It will completely ruin you if you take every opinion into mind.

  1. Unmet expectations.

Unmet expectations from people you thought highly of could hurt you. You had put your hopes on them yet they fail you miserably. That was a bad investment. Sadly, some of the people you trusted completely do not even bother to explain why they failed you.

It is normal to have expectations. The only point you faulted is looking entirely up to someone else to fulfill your expectations. That is what will hurt.

Whenever you expect something from someone, give room for failure. It is not entirely a bad idea to entertain that possibility.

You will appreciate your expectations being met and still understand when they are not. This will make it not hurt that much.

  1. Discouragement.

Discouragement too hurts. It hurts when you try something severally and still do not succeed. Maybe what hurts most is that you failed yourself and have no one to blame. You will be discouraged and it may put off your spirit. healing your hurt

The good news is that failure does not spell doom to you. It is just another chance for you to learn how not to do something. You will definitely not repeat it next time and this will boost your chances of success.

It is almost impossible not to get hurt from expectations. You just need to pat yourself on the shoulder and move on. Nature will heal you from all hurt if you let her.

  1. Disease.

Sickness causes both physical and emotional hurt. Your body stops functioning normally yet you cannot help it. You seek medical help and hope the medication will help you recover.

Diseases have been part of human life for the longest time. Some have succumbed to it but many more have recovered from it and become stronger.

Take comfort in nature’s healing ability to make it all go away.

How can nature heal all your hurt? Even when you solely hurt yourself, mother nature will swiftly come to your rescue.

Nature’s compensation.

  1. Unmerited favor to heal rejection.

Favor is good things being skewed in your direction even when you least deserve it. The universe can conspire to favor you in due time.

Initially closed doors will open for you. The same people who wanted to do nothing with you will look for you upon realizing your worth. They will apologize and make it up to you.

There is no explanation as to how the universe channels such high traffic of favor your way. Do not rely on your strength, trust nature to compensate for your hurt.

  1. A second chance to heal unmet expectations.

Unmet expectations are not the end of it all. Nature offers a second chance for you to try again. Although other people may fail you, in her wisdom, nature will allow you to do it yourself.

Do not be in a hurry for a second attempt. If you do not wait for the right time to be gifted by nature, you may hurt yourself more than how it was the first time.

A second chance is a golden opportunity to wipe your tears of hurt. This is because you have learned one more way of how not to do what it is you were doing.

  1. An environment for meditation to heal your discouragement.

Discouraged people often withdraw from people. They want to spend time alone and cry their hearts out. The thought of recovering from their hurt is never in their diary, at least not for the moment.

Nature’s calm environment can silently offer you a shoulder to lean on. It gives you the peace that is lacking elsewhere. You can meditate on the good things you are planning and reminiscence your past achievements.

Meditation will help you overcome your current hurt from discouragement.

  1. Medicine to heal your sickness.

The best medicine comes from nature. Even modern medicines are made from indigenous herbs that are a gift from mother nature.

Ever since long before civilizations until these modern times, nature has continued to be the source of many medicines. She is looking out for our health.

There are many ways of dealing with hurt but nature’s path is the surest one. You just need to be patient and pay attention to her. You will soon forget it ever happened. 

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Reconnecting with your Purpose

What is your purpose?

Simply put in a few words, your purpose is to you what an engine is to a car. An engine is its heart. It powers the car to move from one place to another. Remove it and you will no longer have that beautiful car. It will remain a shell.

An engine can break down if it is not well serviced. It requires constant servicing and maintenance for it to function optimally. No matter how well you take care of the body of a car, it is useless if you neglect its engine.

After some time, the engine will start failing and eventually stop working altogether. Woe unto you if it happens when you are traveling. That is the high price you have to pay for neglecting to service your car.

You may have to pay a similar price or even higher if you do not pay attention to your purpose. Your life will lose direction once you lose your purpose. The only way to get back on track is by resuscitating it back to life. There are no two ways about it.


Reconnection means that there was once a connection. However, it got lost hence the need to connect once more. Reconnecting with your purpose is finding your way back to it.

There is a possibility you may not find your purpose at the junction where you left it.

It takes double effort to find something lost that you once possessed. The good news is that you will eventually find it if you follow these guidelines.

An incomplete circuit.

Treat reconnecting with your purpose with the urgency it deserves. A directionless life is a huge price to pay for staying in the dark.

When you enter a dark room, the first thing you do is to switch on the light. There is no way you will stay in the dark when you can light up the room by toggling the switch on.

It is easier when you know where the switch is placed. It is worse if you do not know where to find it. The switch in this case is your purpose. It is what will make it possible to light up your life once more.

Here is how you can locate the switch:

  1. The right motivation.

All you need to once more find your purpose is the right motivation. There is none better than the hardships of life. If you do not learn from what has befallen purposeless people, then you will do so the hard way.

The right motivation could take the form of painful experiences. Failing to meet your targets and client deadlines could hurt your sources of income. This can be a thorn in the flesh with bills to pay and other responsibilities to meet.

You need to find your purpose on time. Locating that switch of purpose is the key to enjoying the light. There is nothing that can replace purpose in your life. fuel your passion

  1. The right company.

The friends you keep can either condemn you to darkness or be the beam of light to illuminate your life with purpose. This is why you have to think twice about choosing your friends.

How many people do you know lost it all while being in the wrong company? Two blind people can never lead each other. The end is chaotic.

You can find your purpose by connecting with meaningful friends. They will induct you into their ways and their lifestyles will automatically be part of you. It takes iron to sharpen iron.

The life purposes of people complement each other. You will find yours next to your friends’.

  1. Good attitude.

A good attitude is a job half done. When seeking your purpose, do not do it unwillingly. Put all your effort into it and set out your heart for the same.

Be positive that although you may have initially lost your way, you will find it again. Have hope that you will find what you seek. It is darkest before dawn. Your breakthrough could come when you are almost giving up. Such optimism can attract the favor of the universe.

You can never be forced to do something for your own good. You will definitely invest in it and give it your best shot.

  1. Consistency.

This is what is lacking in most people. It is easier to start something new than it is to stay on course. Reconnecting with your purpose is not any different. Since it is something that you initially had, you may lack consistency in your efforts to find it again.

Do not tire from seeking the switch that will end your stay in darkness. You are not condemned to grapple in the dark for long. You will eventually find the switch.

Imagine giving up when you are almost hitting the jackpot. It’s regrettable, right?

  1. Diversification.

This is trying new practices but still along your purpose. Especially for someone who has experienced the power of purpose before, you can try other things along the same line until you reconnect with what you lost.

Your purpose could be dressed differently this time around but it will definitely feel the same great way as before. That is how you will know you have hit the jackpot.

The journey of reconnecting with your purpose is not an easy one. There will definitely be some challenges on the way. Their presence or absence is insignificant but how you handle them is.

Still, on the analogy of being in a dark room where you are supposed to turn the switch on, there are many factors to consider. Pride is the major one.

It gives a sense of false security. Your familiarity with the darkroom will make you relax in finding the switch to light up the room. You will end up complaining that it was just there and now you cannot find it.

Accord the reconnection with your purpose the seriousness it deserves. You will eventually find it if you also pay attention to the five factors discussed.

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Mastering the Art of Friendship with the Universe

The genesis of friendships.

“We got along well from the first day we met” is a very common statement. Another one is “I could not imagine that we could be great friends.” You must have heard these two statements or many other similar ones. Is there truth in any?

Yes, there is much truth in them. The truth again is that many people do not pay attention to how they start friendships. This reveals a worrying trend that has taken root – hardly do people make deliberate friendships. Most of them are products of circumstances.

If human friendships are products of circumstances, how much so about the invisible universe? That is definitely a hill to climb. A steep one for that matter.

Well, here is a manual on how to nurture friendships:

  1. Identify a suitable ‘friend’ among strangers.

In a multitude of people, there cannot miss one or two whose purposes align with yours. If you disagree, it’s probably because you have not looked closely enough. It is not enough to watch from a distance and conclude there are none, make an effort to find your destiny mate.

It is difficult at the beginning until you observe their actions. Observations require time, patience, and keenness. Friendship with the universe follows a similar path. You need to pay attention to her every move. She is the only trustworthy friend you can make if you synchronize your purpose with her.

Friendship with the universe is a gem. But you first have to study her keenly before you take your friendship to the next level.

  1. Approach them and initiate a conversation.

Upon identifying a potential friend, the next step is to make a move. How will they know that they have charmed you if you do not express yourself? Be courageous and make that bold move.

Starting a conversation with a stranger feels awkward at the beginning. It almost feels like you are a nuisance. Keep your eyes on the bigger goal – the friendship.

Similarly, you need to do the same with the universe. Initiate a conversation with her. You can do this by taking care of nature. Showing, by your actions, your interest in taking care of her. Being nature’s caretaker is not dumb. She will reward you by accepting your friendship.

The universe is not a fellow human who speaks your language. You have to speak her language before she accepts you as a friend. This includes acts of kindness towards nature.

  1. Explore common interests.

This is the part of synching your purposes. Have you ever wondered why new friends are excited to talk about their interests? It is so because they want to know each other better. In their small talk, they end up revealing everything about themselves. It is quite normal.

Friendship with the universe takes the same path. She is loving like a mother who accommodates all her children. There is space for each one of them. You should explore all your interests fearlessly. Do not hold back any of your ambitions for anything.

Sports, leadership, education, and technology could be some of the areas your passion lies. The universe appreciates genuine interest in your ambitions. She is not for half-baked interests in ambitions.

Fact check – hesitancy is punished by low rewards and boldness is rewarded by fruitful efforts. Knowing how to build your friendship with the universe is the pinnacle of success.


  1. Do not withhold from a conversation.

Good friendships are built on proper communication. It is a give and take transaction with a common currency – communication. Any misunderstanding can be quickly resolved when friends talk. Silence only amplifies the problem.

The universe expects more from you as you do from her. You expect that she will crown your efforts with favorable results while she expects that you will be consistent and not withhold any efforts. When you play your part consistently, the universe is sure to play her role.

One-sided expectations weighing down on the universe will hurt your friendship. Like a jilted lover, she will walk away without looking back. Since you cannot compete with nature, be in her good books.

  1. Make compromises.

Every successful friendship makes compromises. Good friends meet each other halfway instead of holding hard stances. It will benefit none.

Friendship with the universe is not an exception. You may have to postpone – not give up – on some ambitions due to resources constraint among other reasons. You only pursue the possible and bench some targets for some time in the future.

There is no pride in forcing your way through. Make reasonable goals and targets and the universe shall reward you handsomely for that. However, nature does not tolerate giving up. Only rest is allowed. You will live to realize your goals on another day.

The universe’s reciprocation.

When you have a tight relationship with the universe, she shall grace all your efforts. Success will be your portion all through.

She reciprocates in the following ways:

  1. You will be highly favored.

The pursuit of your purpose shall be favored throughout if you maintain an excellent friendship with the universe. It will almost be like magic – everyone nodding in agreement to your proposal.

Mastering the art of friendship with the universe is not a small feat. You deserve all the favor skewed in your direction.

  1. You will attract destiny connectors.

When you maintain a good relationship with the universe, she will see through your shortcomings and link you with destiny connectors.

Do not change direction as you pursue your purpose. The journey may be difficult but that is what friends are for, right? As a good friend, the universe will bring like-minded people your way. They will aid you to reach your goals.

  1. You will be repaid for every good deed.

Nature is the fairest arbiter. She will repay your good deeds, one with another. After all the good you have done for her in your friendship, she owes you a debt of rewarding your kindness.

Consider her as a mother who rewards her children for their good deeds. She will equally punish every unkindness.

Strive to create an everlasting friendship with the universe. Let it transform into an intimate relationship and all your efforts shall be crowned with success. 

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