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10 Ways to Understand your Partner

A gift from above.

There are many blessings from the universe but the greatest one is your partner. Do not worry if you have none at the moment because that blessing is in the offing. Being single is a time to discover yourself but it gets easier when you are paired up with somebody for a lifetime – your partner. Nature brings them into your life in due time, never too late nor too early. However, we have a rough time before we adjust to them. We tend to push our partners away when we could use their help. Some people even say hurtful words towards them when they did not mean it. These ten tips will help you understand your partner better:

  1.     Read their moods.

Your partner is human just like you. They have their high and low moments. You need to read between the lines. Understand their reasons before you blame them for not doing something right. It is a common assumption that females are the moody ones in a relationship. This is not entirely true. Male partners can be moody too. They may not want to talk about it, act out of self-entitlement, and vent all of this to their partners. Refrain from arguing if this happens. You can discuss what happened when they are in better moods.

  1.     Learn their habits and lifestyle.

The beauty of nature is diversification. We all are different from each other – even our partners whom we suppose are most compatible with us. Do not assume that your partner will love something because you love it. Yes, they may but there is a good chance they may also not like it. Before you impose anything on them, learn their habits and lifestyle. This is the whole essence of dating. Study your partner’s habits and you will realize that the universe’s choice for your life partner is someone with whom you share a lot. Embrace this choice and you will have zero regrets in the future. understanding your partner

  1.     Learn their beliefs and philosophy.

“What belief and/or philosophy does your partner hold?” You should be able to comfortably answer this question. It gets better when both of you stand on common ground. Together you can manifest your desires and pray for blessings from the universe. Anyway, two heads are better than one. Your partner is someone you should be able to confide your worst fears in. They are placed in your life to fulfill your manifestation journey. As such, you should completely learn their beliefs and philosophy. You will make a good couple when you agree on this phase.

  1.     Accommodate their ambitions.

The ambitions of your partner automatically form part of you. Find space to accommodate their ambitions and work together to achieve them. When you both intertwine your ambitions, the universe blesses your union with success. The achievement of either of your dreams will make both of you happy. You can count your blessings together as a couple and nothing shall be too difficult for you to overcome. Accommodating your partner’s ambitions will create a stronger soul connection. It is what we all want with our partners. Isn’t it?

  1.     Find space in their destiny.

The universe has different destinies for all of us, even those in relationships. If you want to understand your partner better, create your space in their destiny. Everything they do is towards taking care of their destiny. You effectively make them take care of you too as part of it. They will take care not to hurt you or shut you out of their lives because you are already a firm part of it. The relationship grows stronger when both partners create space in each other’s destiny.

  1.     Check your horoscopes.

Have you taken the time to check your partner’s horoscope? If not, make a point of doing so. Horoscopes are a forecast into the future based on the position of the stars and planets at the time of their birth. It is a proven way of determining someone’s character. This is something you need if you want to understand your partner. You will get to know their behavior beforehand and get ready to handle them. astrology | horoscope


    Understand their position in your life.

Sometimes your relationship may not work because you did not read the handwriting on the wall. The universe brings different people our way, each of them ordained with a purpose. Not everyone is destined to become your partner. Forcing them to become one will end up hurting both of you. Some people are simply destiny connectors. They have come into our lives to shine a light on our way at an appointed time and then go away. No hard feelings. Understand the role of your partner in your life and listen keenly to what the universe is trying to tell you.

  1.     Penetrate their mind and emotions.

Go beyond the physical when relating with your partner. Get to know what they think and their opinions over a range of issues. This will make you understand them better and avoid unnecessary conflict between you. You should be able to predict their reaction to an issue at any given point. You are now their partner anyway, not some random stranger.

  1.     Mirror strategy.

How do you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror? It feels good to see an image of yourself. Similarly, your partner needs to see themselves in you. You can understand them better when you mirror their actions. They will have nothing to hide from you because you are their mirror and who does not like to watch themselves anyway? This strategy works mostly when you want to win someone’s trust.

  1. Help, don’t criticize.

Your partner needs to feel comfortable around you. Help them to become better in their strengths if you want to understand them better. Their success is equally yours. Your partner will open to you more when they are convinced that your intentions are genuine. This is a safe space to understand them better and register your help. understanding your partner

Never mistreat your partner because you will be in contempt of nature’s benevolence towards you. These ten ways will help you understand them better.

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The Powerful Weapon of Love

Most people think of love as many things but not as a weapon. Here is an eye-opener – love is a weapon. A deadly one to conquer and win. It is what your nemesis will not see coming their way. However, one thing is guaranteed – the weapon of love will make you victorious.

Here is an interesting strategy used by militaries worldwide when in war. They have a hard time when they invade a territory and their enemies have blended with the locals. They cannot launch blanket attacks because innocent civilians will be hurt. They use acts of love to smoke them out. The men and women in uniform bring humanitarian aid to these war-torn places. It should be something that the locals are having an extreme shortage of, for example, food, water, or medical aid. What love! But it is a weapon camouflaged in acts of love. Slowly by slowly, they win over the trust of the locals who silently trade in the location, identity, or both of the enemy that lives within them. The fear innocent civilians have of the soldiers is replaced by trust. They develop faith in them that they are going to keep them safe. Without these acts of love, soldiers cannot easily win the battle against the enemy. Love turns out to be a powerful weapon almost equivalent to as deadly as missiles.

The languages of love.

People speak love in different languages. The focus here is not how those in romantic relationships express love like physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, and acts of service. The focus is majorly on how the world trades in the market of love. You may hate to admit this but love is transactional. Although you may not be expecting anything when you show someone love, an inner part of you would scream for joy when your love is reciprocated. I mean, who would not want to be loved in return? Here are some languages that love is spoken in:

  1.     Sharing.

You would not consider it if you lacked love. Sharing is not out of the abundance of your possessions but from the depths of love. This is genuine love. We teach our children from a young age, we teach our children to be generous and consider the welfare of others. We want them not to hesitate to lend a pen when they have two or share their food with those who do not have one. We want them to grow up knowing about sharing as a language of love. It is not a show-off or a contest but genuine affection.

  1.     Devotion to a good cause.

Love is selfless. Another language of love is devotion to a good cause for the benefit of many people. The strongest pillar of love is that it does not seek self-benefit. It comes out clearly when championing social projects. You devote yourself to a cause you believe in even if it may not benefit you. The best leaders worldwide speak this language. It makes them loveable by their citizens.

  1.     Forgiveness.

It is difficult to forgive someone unconditionally. We always want assurance that they will not hurt us again or that they will compensate for their hurtful actions. The language of love through forgiveness is spoken by quite a handful of people. Most people are not ready for it. However, it serves society better. It is a sign of a stronger person. Those capable of forgiveness rise above the self-interest of seeking revenge. Their heart is big enough to embrace their enemies and start a new page with them. An abundance of forgiveness is a recipe for peace. forgiveness

  1.     Hand of help.

A strong person accepts that he needs help during his low moments. It does not make them any inferior. A stronger person is the one who gives help unconditionally whenever they can. It is a show of love beyond self-gain and not a superiority contest. Some people may not tell you directly that they love you. Instead, they will help you out where you are having difficulty even without you asking. This language of love is beautiful. Isn’t it?

You can effectively turn each of these languages of love into a weapon that will keep you safe. Here is how you can make this transformation:

  1.     War on selfishness.

Selfishness from the leaders to the citizens is a recipe for civil strife. The language of love through sharing seeks to elevate the needs of others above your own. Societies that have plunged into chaos did not speak this language. Consider the reaction of people who realize that they have been sidelined in the distribution of resources. They will not go down without a fight. The only way to cure this inequality is to speak the language of love through sharing.

  1.     Fighting bad manners.

The language of love through devotion to a good cause is a weapon to fight bad manners. With an insight of how the future looks like if everyone is left to do as they please, the best we can do is to stop it before it even starts. It works in the same way vaccination does. It is prevention against disease when and if done correctly. Take up this language of love as a weapon against known social ills.

  1.     It heals injustices.

The thirst for revenge can only be quenched by speaking the language of love. It is an antidote for revenge. In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, an eye for an eye will leave the world with a lot of blind people. Love is the universal language everyone should embrace to heal injustice. Do not let hate win because it is very destructive. Countries that have had civil war as Rwanda have fully embraced it and it has worked for them.

  1.     It fights poverty.

The world would be a better place if everyone were their brother’s or sister’s keeper. This is the mantra we should adopt – poverty is the enemy. Always look out for those in need because the universe shall reward you handsomely for it. The language of love through giving aid to the needy is the weapon to wipe out poverty.

You can know the winning side in war by identifying those who speak the language of love. They have total control of all the variables in war and shall secure victory for themselves. 

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Understanding the Sign Language of the Universe

Everything is based on good communication. When you get it right, 99% of your problems are solved. Interpersonal relationships, good governance, and efficient teamwork stand on the tall shoulders of good communication, especially from the universe. The universe speaks one language – the sign language. It should also be your primary language if you want to succeed in establishing good relations.

One message can be passed across in many ways but received differently by people. The choice of words, the emphasis on means of communication, and its timeliness can drive your message home. The language of the universe – the sign language – delivers a message weightier than every other language. It is probably why it is the language of choice by the universe. It is expressed in two major ways: acceptance and rejection.

  1. Favor.

When you gain favor from the universe, you notice wide acceptance wherever you go. You stop struggling and all of a sudden people offer themselves to support your cause. You receive an email about your appointment to a new job, your business proposal sails through after stiff competition, and many projects, in general, get unstuck. This is proof enough that the universe has acknowledged your prayers and they are being fulfilled. Make the best out of it when such favor locates you.

  1. Rejection.

It will be an open secret when you experience rejection, especially from the universe. For a moment, everything will seem to work against you. All your efforts will be frustrated and you may give up if you are weak-hearted. rejection

Rejection is communication that you should accord your project or yourself the seriousness it deserves. Instead of fighting it, align your ambitions with how the universe directs you. What is your response to either of these communications? Unlearn any misguided opinions you may have on how the universe communicates.

The dangers of favor.

  1.       False sense of entitlement.

Any signs of acceptance may give you a false sense of entitlement. You may become bossy when you see people submitting to your cause. Their support to you does not mean you are the best. It is just your time to shine. Gracefully accept your place when the universe gives your ambitions a nod. In all its fairness, your turn has come to shine, and do not be entitled to it. Accept it with uttermost humility.

  1.     Overjoy can ruin your chances.

People can do a lot of crazy things in the heat of the moment. The joy of finally having a breakthrough after much struggle cannot be hidden. Be warned about how you will react to good news especially if it has not been forthcoming after a long time. You may be arrogant to the people who have stood with you because you think you will no longer need their support. The same people will preside over your downfall and nobody will be sorry for you.

  1.     Contentment.

It is dangerous to be content after hitting your targets courtesy of the universe’s hand in your favor. Remember that your success this time around is not because of your competence but the universe’s favor. Do not fall back or reduce your efforts in what you were doing. When your time of favor elapses, you will not catch up with the rest. There is a tendency of being comfortable in your success. This is what favor from the universe offers. Do not take up this offer no matter how tempting it may be.

The opportunities of rejection.

  1.       A second chance.

Nobody wants rejection. But there is a silver lining to it. It is a platform for a second chance. You can amend and improve on the plan that got you rejected. It will be irresistible the next time you present it to the same audience that initially rejected it. You retreat to a moment of self-reflection when rejected. If you still have the conviction of your plans, you can make a second stab and be successful after taking important lessons.  

  1.     A change of mind.

Rejection can turn out to be a blessing. Sometimes your plans are rejected because it is not the best for you at the moment. The universe is telling you that you need to relook into what you have. You could be on the wrong platform. If you planned to sail through as they were, you could not realize your full potential. The best favor that the universe can gift you at that time is rejection. Do not be bitter about it. Take it gracefully and appreciate divergent opinions. You might find a better idea altogether. happiness

  1.     An eye-opener.

Rejection is also an eye-opener. It is like a wake-up call that is highly unwelcome to most people. Do not hate yourself when rejected. You just have to turn to the other side that you have been blind to all along. Your breakthrough could be waiting for you. Consider opinions that you were initially reserved too. The universe could be guiding you to it.

Moving forward…

You need to calculate your next steps wisely after understanding the sign language of the universe broadly expressed through favor or rejection. Either way that you read the handwriting on the wall, do not take it as the final word. You can manage to turn things in your favor ONLY by obeying the laws of nature. The first rule of thumb is the law of attraction. This is a whole chapter that you need to look into.

Take a mental note about sign language from the universe – your position is NEVER guaranteed. It is a world of stiff competition and you should get out of your comfort zone. When the universe gives you a signal of acceptance, embrace it and seek to lengthen your stay there. When you are rejected, work towards entering the good books of the universe. Every position is earned. Do good and pursue your purpose. You will be rewarded handsomely for it. Understanding the sign language of the universe is one step closer to fulfilling your destiny.  

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Why you need blind faith (and how to get it)

The definition of faith may not be very clear. Much has been said about what faith is but living it remains a challenge many people are yet to overcome. Faith is unlimited trust in someone or something. It is a strong belief that you are ready to defend and contribute your time and resources towards it.

Faith has no boundaries. It is as deep as the pacific and wide as the heavens. You can do unimaginable things for faith’s sake. It remains the best choice you make in your eyes even when everyone around you has their doubts. Does faith have eyes? Can it see the reality of the matter or how desperately you believe in a cause? Well, faith has eyes and ears. It is living if you practice it correctly (there are rules of practice). However, some limitations block the manifestation of faith in your life. Some of these limitations are:

      Your sight.

The gift of sight is a blessing but it is the greatest obstacle of faith. The eyes of faith do not require physical vision. They are within you and can see beyond physical things. Such is the weight of faith. It requires you to be ‘blind’. Who does not love sight? We use it to watch our favorite shows, play games, behold the beauty of the universe, visualize how things look like, and many more. By the same sight, we see obstacles in our way. This impossible mentality brought by sight is the number one enemy of faith. It is a great limitation of believing that things will work out fine because what we see at the moment is the difficulty ahead.

    Your mind.

Your mind conceives a lot of things. It may work for faith or against it. Sadly, it mostly works against it because of sight as seen earlier on. Your mind is an asset that continually thinks about what is possible as told by all body senses. It automatically rejects dreams that do not conform to the standards it has set (unless trained otherwise). No wonder, most people of faith are looked down upon by the ‘rational’ ones. Faith can never make sense where the mind does not embrace it. The two can never co-exist harmoniously if the mind is unprepared.

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    Your doubts.

It is normal to doubt illogical theories and dreams. But when it goes overboard, faith stops working. It has eyes and ears to recognize your doubts. It will never work for you because you are constantly opposing that it will work. You do not have to agree right away but allow faith some benefit of the doubt that it can work. You can have your doubts but it gets worse when other people contribute to them. It is like they are outing a rubber stamp in your mind that what faith is trying to make happen shall not succeed.

Overcoming these limitations requires that you have blind faith. The kind of faith that will be adamant on the possibility that it will work. Here is how you can develop blind faith:

      Use vision instead of sight.

Vision is for the long term while sight is short term. The visually impaired may lack sight but they can have vision. Something is seriously wrong when you do not have a vision of where you are heading. Your vision is what a compass is to a sea sailor. It gives direction when they are in the middle of the ocean. A sharp vision will see the prize at the end of the race and not the obstacles on the way.

    Focus on the bigger picture.

Your mind will tell you about here and now because it is what you can see at the moment. To develop blind faith, you need to focus on the end product. Look at how beautiful the end will be and let this inspire you to outgrow the thoughts of your mind. Not all thoughts are bad. It is just that some may mislead you to think about the possibilities at the moment and not the wonders that blind faith can bring into your life. Your vision is uninterrupted when you focus on the bigger picture. It is what fertilizer is to crops on the farm – constantly providing nutrients for growth. Likewise, the bigger picture feeds your faith.

    Be encouraged.

You need to listen to the voice of reason when you are in despair. This will build your faith more. Do not listen to those who are out there to discourage you and show you that it is not possible. They will sink even the little hope that was turning to faith. Be careful with whom you give attention. They are the ultimate faith builders or breakers.

A lot of power lies in blind faith. It will help you overcome a million hurdles your way. These are some of its benefits:

You manifest the law of attraction.

The law of attraction works on the principle of faith. You only attract what you think, speak, or feel. They are major players in manifesting your faith. Blind faith is necessary because it helps you develop the right attitude in manifesting the law of attraction.

You rise above challenges.

Challenges are part of the growing process. It is difficult to grow through them without faith – blind faith to be specific. Your focus shifts from the prevailing challenges to the prize at the end of the race. It is a powerful driving force that is unstoppable by challenges of any nature.

It clears any doubt you may have.

Faith and doubts can never mix. When you finally develop blind faith, it means that you have overcome all forms of doubts. You are empowered to try new things that will contribute to the success of your vision.

It empowers you to see only the positive side.

Positivity is impossible without faith. The list of benefits of positivity is endless. The major one is that it is the best gift for yourself. When you bag faith in your bucket list, you have a lot more rewards too.

It is high time you appreciated blind faith more and follow this guide to work towards achieving it. It will unlock the full potential of your vision. 

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Nature’s Way of Healing your Hurt

Is your heart hurt?

The genesis of hurt is a lengthy story. Everyone has their own version. Some are more emotional than others and they have left the hurt very bitter. Blames are thrown right, left, and center with the promise of revisiting the hurt in the name of revenge.

Well, nature has different news for you. She will only ‘make you whole again’ if you abide by her rules. First, you have to understand the origin of your hurt. Was your heart truly hurt or did you hurt yourself? Most people will definitely be defensive and claim that it was not their fault. 

Emotionally detach yourself from your hurt. This is a big win. Thereafter, take a step back and evaluate what really hurt you.

Causes of hurt.

  1. Rejection.

Who would not be hurt by rejection? Almost everyone would, except the emotionally numb ones. Rejection could damage your self-esteem and you start questioning what it is that you lack.

Imagine your people refusing to be associated with you. They treat you as an outcast and even treat strangers better than you. Ouch! You may not recover from it soon. Except only if you allow nature to heal you completely.

Do not take rejection so personally. Other people’s opinions about you will remain just that – opinions. Let it not affect you because it is not the truth. You know better. Can you imagine arguing with someone else that what you are holding is a cup, yet they insist it is a spoon?

Their perception of what you are holding to be a spoon will not change the reality that it is a cup. This is how you should view rejection. It will completely ruin you if you take every opinion into mind.

  1. Unmet expectations.

Unmet expectations from people you thought highly of could hurt you. You had put your hopes on them yet they fail you miserably. That was a bad investment. Sadly, some of the people you trusted completely do not even bother to explain why they failed you.

It is normal to have expectations. The only point you faulted is looking entirely up to someone else to fulfill your expectations. That is what will hurt.

Whenever you expect something from someone, give room for failure. It is not entirely a bad idea to entertain that possibility.

You will appreciate your expectations being met and still understand when they are not. This will make it not hurt that much.

  1. Discouragement.

Discouragement too hurts. It hurts when you try something severally and still do not succeed. Maybe what hurts most is that you failed yourself and have no one to blame. You will be discouraged and it may put off your spirit. healing your hurt

The good news is that failure does not spell doom to you. It is just another chance for you to learn how not to do something. You will definitely not repeat it next time and this will boost your chances of success.

It is almost impossible not to get hurt from expectations. You just need to pat yourself on the shoulder and move on. Nature will heal you from all hurt if you let her.

  1. Disease.

Sickness causes both physical and emotional hurt. Your body stops functioning normally yet you cannot help it. You seek medical help and hope the medication will help you recover.

Diseases have been part of human life for the longest time. Some have succumbed to it but many more have recovered from it and become stronger.

Take comfort in nature’s healing ability to make it all go away.

How can nature heal all your hurt? Even when you solely hurt yourself, mother nature will swiftly come to your rescue.

Nature’s compensation.

  1. Unmerited favor to heal rejection.

Favor is good things being skewed in your direction even when you least deserve it. The universe can conspire to favor you in due time.

Initially closed doors will open for you. The same people who wanted to do nothing with you will look for you upon realizing your worth. They will apologize and make it up to you.

There is no explanation as to how the universe channels such high traffic of favor your way. Do not rely on your strength, trust nature to compensate for your hurt.

  1. A second chance to heal unmet expectations.

Unmet expectations are not the end of it all. Nature offers a second chance for you to try again. Although other people may fail you, in her wisdom, nature will allow you to do it yourself.

Do not be in a hurry for a second attempt. If you do not wait for the right time to be gifted by nature, you may hurt yourself more than how it was the first time.

A second chance is a golden opportunity to wipe your tears of hurt. This is because you have learned one more way of how not to do what it is you were doing.

  1. An environment for meditation to heal your discouragement.

Discouraged people often withdraw from people. They want to spend time alone and cry their hearts out. The thought of recovering from their hurt is never in their diary, at least not for the moment.

Nature’s calm environment can silently offer you a shoulder to lean on. It gives you the peace that is lacking elsewhere. You can meditate on the good things you are planning and reminiscence your past achievements.

Meditation will help you overcome your current hurt from discouragement.

  1. Medicine to heal your sickness.

The best medicine comes from nature. Even modern medicines are made from indigenous herbs that are a gift from mother nature.

Ever since long before civilizations until these modern times, nature has continued to be the source of many medicines. She is looking out for our health.

There are many ways of dealing with hurt but nature’s path is the surest one. You just need to be patient and pay attention to her. You will soon forget it ever happened. 

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Reconnecting with your Purpose

What is your purpose?

Simply put in a few words, your purpose is to you what an engine is to a car. An engine is its heart. It powers the car to move from one place to another. Remove it and you will no longer have that beautiful car. It will remain a shell.

An engine can break down if it is not well serviced. It requires constant servicing and maintenance for it to function optimally. No matter how well you take care of the body of a car, it is useless if you neglect its engine.

After some time, the engine will start failing and eventually stop working altogether. Woe unto you if it happens when you are traveling. That is the high price you have to pay for neglecting to service your car.

You may have to pay a similar price or even higher if you do not pay attention to your purpose. Your life will lose direction once you lose your purpose. The only way to get back on track is by resuscitating it back to life. There are no two ways about it.


Reconnection means that there was once a connection. However, it got lost hence the need to connect once more. Reconnecting with your purpose is finding your way back to it.

There is a possibility you may not find your purpose at the junction where you left it.

It takes double effort to find something lost that you once possessed. The good news is that you will eventually find it if you follow these guidelines.

An incomplete circuit.

Treat reconnecting with your purpose with the urgency it deserves. A directionless life is a huge price to pay for staying in the dark.

When you enter a dark room, the first thing you do is to switch on the light. There is no way you will stay in the dark when you can light up the room by toggling the switch on.

It is easier when you know where the switch is placed. It is worse if you do not know where to find it. The switch in this case is your purpose. It is what will make it possible to light up your life once more.

Here is how you can locate the switch:

  1. The right motivation.

All you need to once more find your purpose is the right motivation. There is none better than the hardships of life. If you do not learn from what has befallen purposeless people, then you will do so the hard way.

The right motivation could take the form of painful experiences. Failing to meet your targets and client deadlines could hurt your sources of income. This can be a thorn in the flesh with bills to pay and other responsibilities to meet.

You need to find your purpose on time. Locating that switch of purpose is the key to enjoying the light. There is nothing that can replace purpose in your life. fuel your passion

  1. The right company.

The friends you keep can either condemn you to darkness or be the beam of light to illuminate your life with purpose. This is why you have to think twice about choosing your friends.

How many people do you know lost it all while being in the wrong company? Two blind people can never lead each other. The end is chaotic.

You can find your purpose by connecting with meaningful friends. They will induct you into their ways and their lifestyles will automatically be part of you. It takes iron to sharpen iron.

The life purposes of people complement each other. You will find yours next to your friends’.

  1. Good attitude.

A good attitude is a job half done. When seeking your purpose, do not do it unwillingly. Put all your effort into it and set out your heart for the same.

Be positive that although you may have initially lost your way, you will find it again. Have hope that you will find what you seek. It is darkest before dawn. Your breakthrough could come when you are almost giving up. Such optimism can attract the favor of the universe.

You can never be forced to do something for your own good. You will definitely invest in it and give it your best shot.

  1. Consistency.

This is what is lacking in most people. It is easier to start something new than it is to stay on course. Reconnecting with your purpose is not any different. Since it is something that you initially had, you may lack consistency in your efforts to find it again.

Do not tire from seeking the switch that will end your stay in darkness. You are not condemned to grapple in the dark for long. You will eventually find the switch.

Imagine giving up when you are almost hitting the jackpot. It’s regrettable, right?

  1. Diversification.

This is trying new practices but still along your purpose. Especially for someone who has experienced the power of purpose before, you can try other things along the same line until you reconnect with what you lost.

Your purpose could be dressed differently this time around but it will definitely feel the same great way as before. That is how you will know you have hit the jackpot.

The journey of reconnecting with your purpose is not an easy one. There will definitely be some challenges on the way. Their presence or absence is insignificant but how you handle them is.

Still, on the analogy of being in a dark room where you are supposed to turn the switch on, there are many factors to consider. Pride is the major one.

It gives a sense of false security. Your familiarity with the darkroom will make you relax in finding the switch to light up the room. You will end up complaining that it was just there and now you cannot find it.

Accord the reconnection with your purpose the seriousness it deserves. You will eventually find it if you also pay attention to the five factors discussed.

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Mastering the Art of Friendship with the Universe

The genesis of friendships.

“We got along well from the first day we met” is a very common statement. Another one is “I could not imagine that we could be great friends.” You must have heard these two statements or many other similar ones. Is there truth in any?

Yes, there is much truth in them. The truth again is that many people do not pay attention to how they start friendships. This reveals a worrying trend that has taken root – hardly do people make deliberate friendships. Most of them are products of circumstances.

If human friendships are products of circumstances, how much so about the invisible universe? That is definitely a hill to climb. A steep one for that matter.

Well, here is a manual on how to nurture friendships:

  1. Identify a suitable ‘friend’ among strangers.

In a multitude of people, there cannot miss one or two whose purposes align with yours. If you disagree, it’s probably because you have not looked closely enough. It is not enough to watch from a distance and conclude there are none, make an effort to find your destiny mate.

It is difficult at the beginning until you observe their actions. Observations require time, patience, and keenness. Friendship with the universe follows a similar path. You need to pay attention to her every move. She is the only trustworthy friend you can make if you synchronize your purpose with her.

Friendship with the universe is a gem. But you first have to study her keenly before you take your friendship to the next level.

  1. Approach them and initiate a conversation.

Upon identifying a potential friend, the next step is to make a move. How will they know that they have charmed you if you do not express yourself? Be courageous and make that bold move.

Starting a conversation with a stranger feels awkward at the beginning. It almost feels like you are a nuisance. Keep your eyes on the bigger goal – the friendship.

Similarly, you need to do the same with the universe. Initiate a conversation with her. You can do this by taking care of nature. Showing, by your actions, your interest in taking care of her. Being nature’s caretaker is not dumb. She will reward you by accepting your friendship.

The universe is not a fellow human who speaks your language. You have to speak her language before she accepts you as a friend. This includes acts of kindness towards nature.

  1. Explore common interests.

This is the part of synching your purposes. Have you ever wondered why new friends are excited to talk about their interests? It is so because they want to know each other better. In their small talk, they end up revealing everything about themselves. It is quite normal.

Friendship with the universe takes the same path. She is loving like a mother who accommodates all her children. There is space for each one of them. You should explore all your interests fearlessly. Do not hold back any of your ambitions for anything.

Sports, leadership, education, and technology could be some of the areas your passion lies. The universe appreciates genuine interest in your ambitions. She is not for half-baked interests in ambitions.

Fact check – hesitancy is punished by low rewards and boldness is rewarded by fruitful efforts. Knowing how to build your friendship with the universe is the pinnacle of success.


  1. Do not withhold from a conversation.

Good friendships are built on proper communication. It is a give and take transaction with a common currency – communication. Any misunderstanding can be quickly resolved when friends talk. Silence only amplifies the problem.

The universe expects more from you as you do from her. You expect that she will crown your efforts with favorable results while she expects that you will be consistent and not withhold any efforts. When you play your part consistently, the universe is sure to play her role.

One-sided expectations weighing down on the universe will hurt your friendship. Like a jilted lover, she will walk away without looking back. Since you cannot compete with nature, be in her good books.

  1. Make compromises.

Every successful friendship makes compromises. Good friends meet each other halfway instead of holding hard stances. It will benefit none.

Friendship with the universe is not an exception. You may have to postpone – not give up – on some ambitions due to resources constraint among other reasons. You only pursue the possible and bench some targets for some time in the future.

There is no pride in forcing your way through. Make reasonable goals and targets and the universe shall reward you handsomely for that. However, nature does not tolerate giving up. Only rest is allowed. You will live to realize your goals on another day.

The universe’s reciprocation.

When you have a tight relationship with the universe, she shall grace all your efforts. Success will be your portion all through.

She reciprocates in the following ways:

  1. You will be highly favored.

The pursuit of your purpose shall be favored throughout if you maintain an excellent friendship with the universe. It will almost be like magic – everyone nodding in agreement to your proposal.

Mastering the art of friendship with the universe is not a small feat. You deserve all the favor skewed in your direction.

  1. You will attract destiny connectors.

When you maintain a good relationship with the universe, she will see through your shortcomings and link you with destiny connectors.

Do not change direction as you pursue your purpose. The journey may be difficult but that is what friends are for, right? As a good friend, the universe will bring like-minded people your way. They will aid you to reach your goals.

  1. You will be repaid for every good deed.

Nature is the fairest arbiter. She will repay your good deeds, one with another. After all the good you have done for her in your friendship, she owes you a debt of rewarding your kindness.

Consider her as a mother who rewards her children for their good deeds. She will equally punish every unkindness.

Strive to create an everlasting friendship with the universe. Let it transform into an intimate relationship and all your efforts shall be crowned with success. 

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The Language(s) of the Universe


“If it is not two-way, then that is something different altogether.” This is the most sensible statement ever said about communication. One party listens as the other talks. That is the hallmark of communication. Regrettably, most people do not even know if the universe can ‘talk’ back to them. Well, yes it does and much more.

Communication is a process that culminates in feedback. The receiver has to give feedback (whether positive or negative) to what has been said by the source. Consider it a switch that completes a circuit and lights a bulb. The bulb here is your desires and prayers to the universe. Its answers will make your bulb light.

What language does the universe speak?

If you pay attention, the universe speaks three languages. They are not foreign but you could have missed them out of ignorance. Do not take anything for granted.

Coincidence is a foreign word to the universe. It operates on cause and effect. Here are the three languages of the universe:

  1. Yes.

Yes, YES is a complete answer from the universe. Our prayers, both the known and silent ones are like vehicles in a city. Cities are fairly busy compared to other towns. Moreover, there is also a lot of traffic. In the latest research by World Highways, India’s city of Bangalore ranks the highest with the worst traffic in the world at 71% followed by Manila (capital city of the Philippines) still at 71%, and in the third position is Bogota (the capital city of Colombia) at 68%.

The solution to such worst cases of traffic is using traffic lights. When it hits green, vehicles in a certain lane are allowed to move as others stop. The universe answers our prayers with greenlight to proceed as others wait for their turn.

A YES from the universe has no regrets. It is a blessing to what we are permitted to do. The universe crowns our efforts with glory after its positive answer. Can you imagine if traffic lights in Bangalore city would light green to more than one lane in opposite directions? The number of accidents when this happens would be alarming.

This is the main reason why the universe blesses those who wait for a YES from it. Such acceptance comes in many ways.

You can know it when what was blocking you starts moving aside one by one. These are some signals: your debtors start paying you your dues, the national construction authority approves your project of building a commercial house or your driving license is ready for collection.

You shall succeed when you follow this path the universe is directing you.

  1. No.

No is equally a complete answer. The universe is all-knowing and it can deny your prayers. You are not always entitled to a Yes. When your prayers are declined, it is in your best interests.

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Still considering the example of cities with the worst traffic in the world, a red traffic light is not entirely bad altogether. There is a reason why it is red in one lane and green in another. The cars are taking turns to pass through such busy cities.

It would have otherwise been chaotic without the order that traffic lights bring. There is every reason to enforce their compliance by all road users.

You may want to consider No as not a bad answer altogether. In fact, it is in your best interests that your prayer is declined.

Would a sane parent give a young child a loaded gun because they cried for it? No, they would not. They may refuse and give no explanation to the minor. That would still be right. In the future, if the child (now adult) applies for a gun license, their request can be granted.

A No from the universe is still a positive answer. Here is how you can know whether the universe has declined your prayers.

You can lack the money to visit a place and yet get funds for your child’s fees and rent too. You may lack money to start a business but get money to help a friend in need. These ironies in life are nature’s way of saying No to your prayers.

Always have in mind that the universe considers what is best for you at every stage in life.

  1. Wait.

“Wait” is neither a Yes nor a No. It simply means that it is not yet time. At least not just yet. While still considering the example of traffic lights, the amber light means to wait. Vehicles are not permitted to move but a driver can have their foot on the accelerator pedal. They do this fully aware that it will soon be green.

The universe similarly responds to our prayers. They are neither out rightly rejected nor accepted straightaway. They are simply put on hold until an appropriate time comes for it. At the appointed time, a YES comes through and things start moving exactly how we had prayed.

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A lot happens during this waiting period. Some people become impatient and decide to force their way through only for them to perish. It would have otherwise paid off to wait a little longer until they get the greenlight.

Other people do not even recognize that they are in wait mode. They assume that their prayers have been rejected and they give up. That is how they throw the baby with the bathwater. They read the wrong signs.

How can you know that the universe has put your prayers on hold? Your loan at the bank could take unusually long to be processed. The bank has not refused to grant you the loan. It simply has to complete all the necessary procedures.

You could be seeking a promotion to the next rank at your workplace. It delays and when it finally comes through, you are transferred to another work station with a higher position than what you had prayed for.

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Your patience is very important in understanding communication from the universe. It knows what is best for you and will grant your prayers at the right time.

Do not be in competition with it because your guess is as good as mine who the loser will be.

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